I think I need to be a little more exciting to my WH. I've always been uptight about things. I'm a worrier. Can anyone give me some tips on how to be more exciting( not necessarily sexually either)?

I would also like a few ideas on this, so I'll give you a nudge.

I'd like to hear some of this, too! Just think of how hard it is for a WS to want to be with a depressed, whining, worrying BS when the OP is happy, exciting, and the WS doesn't have to put up with their day-to-day nonsense. It is very hard to compete with the OP as it is, whether it be sexual or just social excitement.<P>But we all want to know, but there really isn't an answer, so I'll just mention a few things that I've learned....<P>First of all, smile, don't act depressed. Whether you are just sitting to dinner with your spouse, or doing something fun like walking down the beach. Even if you are down in the dumps, and something triggered a memory of the betrayal and pain, it will do you no good to show it. WS's don't want to be part of your pity party, and that apology isn't going to come for a while (if it ever does).<P>As far as things to do, it really depends on what you, as a couple, enjoy. Going to a theme park is definitely exciting. It gives you a chance to really let loose and be a kid again. Seeing this free-spirited side of you might be enough to convince the WS that you aren't all that boring after all.<P>But money isn't always there. I know, for sure, I haven't been able to make it to a theme park in years. But something we do enjoy is reading a book to each other. Not a serious book. Something more like CS Lewis's Chronicles of Narnia. We ended up doing the voices and everything, LOL. <P>But all the fun and excitement in the world could totally be ruined by a sour mood. If you're moping around, feeling sorry for yourself in front of your spouse, then all your efforts will be in vain.<P>Anyone else?

I know this is my topic but I do have some ideas for others, that I have already used:<BR>>find a back road, park and make out <BR>>have a sun-roof in your car? on the back road of course, stand up and hang out the sun roof.<BR>>have four-wheel drive? go four wheeling(for the guys, I don't know if that would make a woman more exciting to a guy.Hmmmm, maybe some opinions from the guys on that one?) <BR>That's all that I have. Anyone, else??????? <P>[This message has been edited by M&J (edited August 14, 2001).]<P>[This message has been edited by M&J (edited August 14, 2001).]<p>[This message has been edited by M&J (edited August 14, 2001).]

M&J,<P>Exciting?? i would venture to guess that the range of that phrase is pretty darn vast so for me what works.<P>its really really simple, be excited to see me. when you see me even if its only been a few hours when you see me look like your happy i am there, hug me, kiss me (like we just finished having sex no pecks ok!) and even though its not likely to happen try and generate the appearence that having sex is possible at alomost any given moment.<P>have fun being the object of my desire, meet me knowing full well that if i could id strip you down grease ya up and have sex with you right in the middle of town square. <BR>your enjoyment of my desire for you, would do so much for me on the excitement scale.<P>of course backing that up with the occational behind your back grope in the elevator, the kiss that lights my fire right before we sit down for dinner with the in-laws, the sneak peek at your breasts as you reach for a roll all while looking right in to my eyes. yep does it for me.<P>i guess more than anything i would reccommend you do things that you can sustain over long periods of time, dont put yourself in a position that what you are doing cant be done for a long time to come. <P>oh yea, get shy about him seeing your body all of a sudden, dont let him see you naked just out of the shower, put some mystery back into the discovery of you all over again.<P>hope this helps.<BR>

Go out to a club by yourself, and JUST HAVE FUN. Let your H go and meet you there and see you enjoying yourself. <P>Go to a nude beach / nudist resort.<P>Get a tattoo.<P>Crash a party.<P>Make out in very odd/weird places that you would not expect to make out.<P>Call some friends over for interactive gaming (like a murder mystery)<P>Wear something provocative the next time you go out.<P>Hmmm... I've done all of these things and it was some of the best times my H and I ever had. Excitement and fun, can't beat it!<P>Good luck!<BR>HbH

I think mystery is definitely a key word. How about a little phone call, note, e-mail from time to time? A sexy thought or question.<P>Then, like GM said, being happy and positive, a little care-free (especially if you are normally a worrier, like me ), flexible, fun, sappy sweet, feminine. I think being totally interested in HIM and his life, interests, etc., is interesting to him. Like if he likes golf, or other sports, get interested in them and participate.

Great Ideas!!!!! I like them. I've been dressing provocativly a lot. I catch him checking me out. <BR>>another one that I do which arouses H is lay on the couch and caress myself... <BR>and moan...<p>[This message has been edited by M&J (edited August 14, 2001).]

hoboy! this is getting rather risque! LOL<P>If my wife did any of those things, she wouldn't know what hit her, I would attack her so quickly!

Anymore suggestions???????

Last time I was wearing a miniskirt, with thong, met H for lunch, and at my truck, as he walked from his truck to my driver side door, I (accidentally) kicked something out of the truck to drop to the floor, then as I exited my truck, I bent over, with my back facing him, and picked it up; I thought a little show would make his day. (Reminder, this was a very short skirt) Talk about a quicky for lunch, I found out that did it!!! Good thing my house was less than a mile away.<p>[This message has been edited by stranger under same roof (edited August 16, 2001).]