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In the book Surviving an Affair, it is suggested that the BS move when they go into plan B. I have just gone into plan B. I am thinking of moving and told my WH so just before I went into plan B. He has since taked to my adult D, telling her that there's no way he would move because of his business which is based here. When I read the problems of those in recovery, WS's going back and forth, I think I should move. But after this comment he made, it would probably be the end of us. It's so hard not to keep thinking of him, even in plan B.
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Hey Maezy...<P>Can you clarify what you mean by moving? I recall that moving is suggested for some when recovery is taking place...but I don't recall such when in plan b...<P>I will also hunt down my copy of SAA and do some research...<P>Cali
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Hi,<BR>I don't have advice or clarification but I wanted to bump you up in hopes you get more responses..... I was never in Plan B so I don't know the guidelines that well.<BR>Best wishes to you.
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MAEZY, When I was in Plan B, my H was living with OW. I think it would be very hard to live with H and not communicate. It would seem too much like a fight. But some people have done it. Moving away from the area is talked about for getting away from the OP during recovery, but otherwise, would take you away from your support system.<P>It takes time, but the obsession does start to decrease during Plan B, but it takes time. Use the time to focus on yourself since you're the only person you can change. <P>Good luck.
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