I hope you aren't really considering leaving us. We love to get the perspective of the WS. I apologize (as do others, I'm sure) for seeming insensitive at times. We only know how WE feel. And it is SO enlightening to hear your feelings. Perhaps you should post your list on H2Y's thread. You know there's 3 sides to every story, mine, yours, and the truth. SO everything us BS's say, are only our thoughts and feelings. We don't have a CLUE as to what WS's think and feel, much like you have a hard time understanding some of our thoughts and feelings. I agree that it is wrong for us to feel superior to the WS. I sure know that I wasn't perfect before the A, or now, or ever will be. <P>Again, I apologize if we seem insensitive sometimes. Please speak up and remind us. I want to know what is going through my H's mind. As you probably like knowing what is going on your spouse's mind.<P>Hang around with us, ok?

Yes, Lexxxy, please do stay. I no way was I attacking you.. I hope you know that. I may have made some disrespectful judgements, that offened you.. and I'm sorry that if I did... but those disrespectful judgements no matter how painful weren't received by my wife.. and that is my goal. If my vents upset you, I am sorry.. they are not intended to be; this is my only resource outside of drinking and being destructive and irresponsible, where I can get my anger out sometimes. I want to respect your place here, so I offer ((((hugs)))) and an apology. I guess I probably need to hit the bottle and blow something up... instead of venting here.. but those places of escape are all I have. I'm sorry.