I have a easy question, I was wondering HOW you became aware of this site??<P> I was told about it by my Pastor.

I found it 3 days after my wife left by a simple web search. Her leaving made me realize how bad my life has been and I tried to find someone who knew what its like. And so I have...<BR>

I heard about MB from the Dr. JOy Brown radio show. Since it is my single Daughter who is involved with a MM, I was searching to find understanding.<P>------------------<BR>Marry

After I had exposed my H and OW#1 online in a different forum they were posting on (they were having 'fun' sharing their details of their A using aliases.. and they also posted other things using their real names... I shared with everyone on there who they really were), a person emailed me with info on this site.<P>She was a stranger to me then, but now I consider her to be a great friend, and I give her much of the credit for me and H being back together now.<P>Karen<BR>

I'm a book worm as it is. I was in Borders looking for books on A's and found SAA. In the back of the book is the MB Website info. The rest is history, as they say.<P>Jo

I had the His Needs her Needs book for a long time. Pulled it out to re-read it when all this started.. either it says something in the back a bout the web-site, or I searched for it. I've wondered the same thing. good question

In a constant search for information on improving my marriage (another great resource is Gregory Godek's 1001 Ways to Be Rmantic) I stumbles accross the MB regular site on a general search. I subscribed to the newsletter where I found information on the forums. What I have been wondering is, "Are there people here who have really been helped by the information on MB?" It seems that most posts are very depressing to read because more people here are in broken relationships than in healty ones. Maybe that stand to reason since people in healthy relationships most probably are not out searching for answers.

I found MB last October when I was trying to find information on the web pertaining to saving relationships from dying. It was miraculous for me that I found it since I probably would have died without its support.

jcandy, my goodness!! yes!!! keep reading. very depressing posts, but do you see the support? I don't know where I would be if I hadn't found this forum. <P>Check out the reconvery board, and in the Just FOund Out forum, there's a Notable posts/Threads post that contains a section called "success stories"<P>The change I have made in myself over the last 14 weeks is incredible, and the support and info I get here is why. <P><BR>Youa re probably right, if it ain't broke, don't fix it, so healthy marriages are represented her as much. But they are here - after they have recovered - or in recovery - and helping us along that are still in crisis.

Flight Doc,<P>Interesting and stimulating topic. I found this by doing a search on ask jeeves and saw this one while I wanted to find out more info about A's. There were several others to choose from but this one seemed to have the best presentation and support. I read all the material first, lurked for a couple of weeks then started posting and for the most part been here almost daily for the past 8 months. <P>Question to you: What brings you here?<P>L.<BR>

A lady on my internet fitness forum spoke of this website and I came over and checked it out. I printed up some stuff and brought it to my marriage counselor and he said "yes, that is where I get most of my material!"

Web-search--I ordered and read the books--all of them--long before I ever looked at the discussion forums. When my husband and I separated and I was stuck with a suitcase full of clothes, living with my mom, then I decided to started reading the forums. Mostly out of sheer lonliness.

My employers EAP web site had a link here, as well as a few other places. I checked them all out and this was by far the best. I did a web search as well and found some sites that way. Many other places seem to understand a few of the MB principles in one guise or another, but they don't have anything a complete as the SAA package.<P>--Jeffers

A week after i found out about my H affair/s i was too embarrassed to go out and buy a book on affairs. So i did a full search on YAHOO on infedility/affairs and found a few. MB was far the best one for me as it had this forum to read about real people going through similar situation as myself. Finally i didnt feel quite as alone as i did when i first found out. <P>I have received so much support and advice than i ever thought possible. This forum has helped me vent all my sadness as i have no ability to be able to talk to anyone close to me about it all. I have also just started individual counselling and hope to get the help i need to get past it all and address certain issue that i have.<P>Thanks<BR>TOS

Flight Doc,<P>What is your story? What brought you here?<P>L.<BR>

A day or two after d-day, I put 'marriage' into a search engine and this is one of the first websites that showed up...I posted right away on JustFoundOut...and have been here ever since...<P>I'm not sure my H would still be around if I had not found MB and had such good guidance from the people here and the books I have read...<P>Cali

After about two months post my H's A and while in MC, I was reading everything I could get my hands on. So I searched the net for books that looked promising and found this site. I spent months just reading everything Harley has on the site before I even started lurking on the forums. After lurking for a couple of months, I wrote my first thread.<P>So, the short answer to your answer is that I was looking for help anywhere I could find it and I found it here.<BR><P>------------------<BR>Never give up. Never, never give up.<BR>~ Winston Churchill

In March, we had a conflict and H basically accused me of being verbally abusive. Not the first time anyone of the opposite sex has said that about me... Someone once told me not to get married if you don't want to change. I figured it is time for me to change this aspect of my personality! It was either change or lose my husband--the most wonderful thing that God has ever given me...<P>So I started searching the Web for information on verbal abuse and marriage stuff and found MB!<P>Next, I printed a gang of stuff including the EN and LB questionnaires and we filled in everything and practically devoured all the basic concepts and different articles and letters. To this day, H will ask me do I have any MB stuff to share. I'm lucky to have found this site before there was ever any affair, however, when I was younger, I got involved with a MM and have a grown up OC who turned out okay without contact from MM and his W who have since patched up their marriage. Thank God.<P>We have both embraced MB from the discovery point. Didn't really get involved in discussion forums until months later.<P>Thanks for asking!

Orchid, I am sorry it took me this long to answer you. I am here just reading. My pastor said this was a place of valued advice, one that he supports. My spouse has not had an affair, I did. We want to repair the damage, she is in counseling, I am in pastoral counceling, and I needed to be woken up in a sense to the fact that others have saved their marraiges from the disease of infidelity. I am not a talker, so it is hard to write. I am a reader. But from some of the things I have seen, a few of you have very strong opinions about the ones that are the cheaters, and I have already had my share of browbeating. So I am not feeling secure to tell my entire experience. Thank you for asking me though. Are there more sites than this available for this purpose?? This may be an odd question, But is there a site that you know of for the cheating spouses, to get the help for our demons. The why we did it, how to get beyond it, and to never do it again??<P>Bob<p>[This message has been edited by Flight Doc (edited August 19, 2001).]

I had gotten the book "Surviving An Affair" by the Dr. Harley and his daughter from the library. Being a computer "addict", I looked for a web site and hence, I found it on the book's inside jacket. And I'm <B>VERY</B> glad that I did......<P>------------------<BR><B>Time heals all wounds as long as you DON'T pick at them!</B>