Well....yesterday was our middle daughters appt with the eye specialist. It's an hour away.<BR>WH picked us up...he was 20 minutes late and hadn't stopped for gas yet. I could have predicted this.<BR>Anyway when we stopped for gas and my WH went it to pay for it he got the girls some candy and surprised me by buying me some of my favorite candy. I asked him if he baught them just for me and he said yes....I thanked him of course.<BR>The day got a little better......on the way home he offered to stop somewhere and buy us dinner even though he needed to be back in our home town in an hour and a half because he had plans with his new friends and the OW.<BR>Well....I LB'd today.<BR>He came to pick up the girls and when he walked in I noticed a hickie on the back of his neck. Set me off big time. They upset our oldest daughter alot and he told me that he told her no more. He actually went to the bathroom to see where it was....says he didn't know it was there.<BR>I told him that OW should have more respect for his oldest daughter and not be so childish as to put them on him anymore. He kept saying....I knew this would happen. I don't know why he kept saying that. He got a little angry and I did also....but before he left I told him that I was sorry and he apologized as well. I told him though how much it hurt every time he took the girls. He didn't say anything.<BR>I found out that he told my sister that we had sex 1 time....he told her about the first time. He didn't tell her about the other 5 times and he swears he didn't tell her that I said I wanted to be the OW. Yeah right.<P>So....here I am...the girls are gone with him now....and again him being with the OW is bothering me....I had let it go so it didn't....but now it's starting to again.<P>Grrrrrrr......I'm so angry at him right now.

I forgot to mention that he took off work early yesterday and said that he was going to call me and see if I wanted to come out....for you know what....but that someone showed up and wase there for a while. Then he had to get ready to pick us up.<P>What the heck is going on with this man?

You know darn well what's going on with him. Want some validation? Okay.. here it is:<P>he's waffling.<P>Plain and simple.. or so it sounds. <P>Granted, by the sounds of it, his fantasy world is starting to crumble a bit. By him saying "I knew this would happen" over and over again, depending on his tone of voice, will be your answer. He was either referring to the reaction of you and your girls OR he was referring to the OW not respecting his wishes. Hopefully it was the latter of the two.. but you're the one who heard his tone, so you're the one who would have a better idea. But either way, he is unhappy with the outcome of having a hickey on his neck.<P>That was very sweet of him to get the candy for you. I know it's such a little thing.. but coming from a waffling WS.. it's pretty big in my eyes! It shows that he is still thinking of you, and he remembers your likes and dislikes.<P>Enjoy your kid free day!!! You have so much less responsibility for the next X number of hours. Make the most of it and do whatever YOU want to do! <P>Karen<P><BR>

Hi MP,<P>I am glad the doctor's visit was supported by your H. Had a nice dinner also? <P>Yep, that other stuff is still that dumb fog waffle stuff. <P>If they could only really see how they appear to the rest of the world. But since they don't it is like someone walking around with a booger hanging out of their nose and they think they look like a million bucks. Hm..... one day, they will wake up and see what we all see. Until then MP, you take care of you and your family. It is a lot to ask out of you right now but you are the one with clear mind. Keep that heart calm. Ok?<P>L.<BR>

By the way MP, you use ICQ? I just got it and thought maybe we could chat. Today is my no kid day also and no H. Go figure, my anniversary. Oh well, H is saying something about tomorrow, he is working today. No hopes setup, just disappointed but I am getting used to that. <P>I am new at this ICQ stuff, but let me know. <P>Thanks,<BR>L.

Orchid....I sure do have ICQ. Been on it for about 3 years now.<P>my # is 29268679<P>would love to be able to chat with you. )