This is the first I have been able to set down in front of a screen and it's an I Mac, so bare with me.<P>Hello to everyone, I have really missed MB and felt like I needed my MB fix!!! Ha! funny how we can become to depend on something.<P>I am now in SD with 2 of my 3 kids, staying with my parents, oldest stayed in VA for another week. H did drive cross country with us, so wierd. Stopped and spent the day with friends and she said if I hadn't told her about the difficulties she would have never known by his behavior. He did stay here 4 days, my parents were kind enough to offer him a place on the basement sofa, that was really wierd, my parents said the same thing as my friend. We did do somethings together with the girls, he took each out seperately and spent time with them. We did do some talking again last night but the fog is so thick I was amazed that he could see to drive. I do have in writing the dollar amount and the bills that he will be paying and I have his signature to it, may not stand up in court if pushed but don't think it will come to that. He is really pushing for D NOW!!! and I mean right NOW, through all of this he remembers that he is a married man and wants to be rid of me before moving her to UT with him, that really hurt and I guess I can hold out on signing anything. <P>16 yo D has pretty much chosen to ignore the problem and had no remorse when he left this morning (not sure if he was going towards UT or FL) 10 yo daughter started crying last night to her G MA "why is he doing this to me" And cried most of last night and all of this morning so will keep an eye on both of them, older one and the son says he will be back but needs to work through this stupid mistake first.<P><BR>But onward I go, I got here Monday at midnight, slept in on Tuesday, dropped off my resume and application at the school on Wed, pre interviewed that afternoon, interviewed with the building principal on thursday pm and started work Friday morning as an instructional aide in the HS in special ed, think I am going to love it, or at least keep that smile on my face. Three generations in the building as my daughter is a junior and my mother is the ISS/OCS instructor.<P> Looked at a mobile home Wed also and a house Thursday spoke to the realator Friday and will write up the offer on Sunday, my parents have agreed to co-sign or my brother will co-siggn with me so that he can write off his trips back home. So through the mess some real good things are happening for me. I commented to my H, seems like my life is moving forward as yours is going backwards, had to trade his car in for something he wcould afford. <P>Just wanted to give a brief update, got a little long though!! sorry, I missed my friends and just need some hello's tonight as the people I know here are my parents friends not mine, so am a little lost as everyone is out of the house.<P>Dawn

Sorry he is so deep in the fog, I know how it hurts. the good things are you are taking care of your life and good things are happening for you, keep plugging away and life will get even better. My ex made a comment to my daughter inlaw, that my life got better and hers went backwards and it wasn't fair to her, well that is what she choose, I took a different path and worked on myself and continue to do so, it all still hurts but my life is getting better each day. You keep doing the good things for yourself and the children, you will be the better person in the long haul<P>

Hi Daybreak glad to hear that things are moving in a positive direction for you. Sounds like everything is going your way. Sorry to hear your H is stil in the fog. I to have a teenager and it seems as though he cares but he has his life with his friends and I'm happy for him these are the best years and I want him to enjoy it. I also have an 11yr old D and she has taken it very hard. My ittle one 7 doesn't understand. This is such a confusing time for the kids. Good luck to you!<BR>cybil

Dawn, it's so good to hear from you! Dang, you sure have accomplished quite a lot since you've been on your home stomping grounds. I have to agree that your life is looking better and better. You seem to have the "get up and go" to get things done....then, again, what choice do you have? Thank goodness your children have a wonderful mom to keep things in order and in the right perspective.<BR>Stay strong and hang in there <P>Insofar as your H is concerned....keep in the Plan A mode as best that you can. And don't do anything that doesn't feel right to you. Perhaps the great space space between you and him is what he needs to help clear his confusion.<P>Take care, honey!<P>------------------<BR><B>Time heals all wounds as long as you DON'T pick at them!</B>

Thanks, for all of the encouragement, yes I did hit the ground running and H was here to see it, so that was good. Still not happy about him going to FL and have not said anything to anyone about where he is, they would not understand. Would like to see if he took his ring off at sometime though. I don't think that he will. I do have to wonder by moving so fast have I shut the door on any chance that we might have? <P>I do plan to PlanA as long as I feel ok and he lets me. Have sent a card to his new PO box so that there will be something other then bills in it.<P>Did make an offer on the house today, so am very nervous about that as I must go to the mortgage company in the morning, never bought a house before and didn't think that I would be doing this on my own. So scarry!!!!<P>Have things to do, Thanks for the support. I need my friends here as I haven't met any one my own age yet here and haven't looked up any old HS friends. Dawn