[QUOTE]Originally posted by fishlady:<BR><B>I called my H new # earlier (but *67) and I got that message. </B><BR>I somtimes think the phone co. has it set up that way, in the beginning, and you have to UNdo it. Maybe he doesn't know it does that...so call without *67 and see what happens! But don't plan to hang up. Actually have a REASON for calling first.<P><B>I e-mailed him over 1 week ago and didn't get a response. It is over 1 1/2 months since we've talked. That makes it only 2 times we've talked by phone and 2 times by e-mail since separation (almost 3 months ago!)</B><BR>My WH has been gone for 3 months, also, and Friday was the first time I have talked to him AT ALL. That was good, BUT it was an emergency situation, and I'm not sure he would have talked to me otherwise.
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The time that goes by doesn't matter. Eventually, he'll HAVE to talk to you again. Don't push, and don't get anxious, and DON"T EXPECT ANYTHING. I started to think that he would NEVER want to talk to me ever again since I wasn't "in his face." Actually, I think the opposite is true! When you aren't talking to them, I think they start to wonder what you're up to!
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<P><B>Is my imigination getting away from me? I have this huge fear that he has totally moved on and actually can't stand me. I couldn't understand why, we never really fought and got along pretty well.</B><BR>I wouldn't dwell on it. There could be 10 thousand things going on in his head about why he's not calling....my H left me with a NOTE! Not even face to face, and said he wanted a div. Papers were in the mailbox. Then, NO CONTACT> Nothing. Well, 3 months later, when I had an emergency, and called SS, H called me back immediately! Even got scared when I told him I needed to go to hospital next week for procedure....We never fought, he just LEFT one day.
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<P>Don't have this fear that he's moved on. it's not that simple. He just needed to go because he couldn't face you, Or had too much guilt, OR knew you were going to try to stop him and he felt he had to do this now.....no telling.<P><B>Please offer suggestions re: why that message on his phone.</B><BR>Don't worry about the message on the phone. I got 2 messages "bounced" back to me from H. I got intensely HURT by this "rejection." I thought, "The least he could do was just DELETE them. WHY "bounce" them back to me UNOPENED, and hurt me more???? I was VERY hurt. Turns out (I find out more than a month later) that he LOST his phone, due to not paying the bill!!! So he didn't bounce them, the phone co. did!! I got myself all worried, and hurt over nothing. He didn't do this to me!!! Maybe it's the same for you. Maybe it's just the "auto" setting on their phone, and they're not even aware of it. <P>Take care of YOU, and let him be for awhile! Read, learn, Plan A.<BR>Lupo<BR>