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#939960 08/20/01 12:56 AM
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Does anyone know how to block calls coming in from unidentified numbers? And why would someone do that?<P>I called my H new # earlier (but *67) and I got that message. He has a roommate and it may be something that he has done. But now i'm feeling that my H wants nothing to do with me and doesn't want to hear from me.<P>I e-mailed him over 1 week ago and didn't get a response. It is over 1 1/2 months since we've talked. That makes it only 2 times we've talked by phone and 2 times by e-mail since separation (almost 3 months ago!)<P>Is my imigination getting away from me? I have this huge fear that he has totally moved on and actually can't stand me. I couldn't understand why, we never really fought and got along pretty well. Our last phone convo's went ok. <P>I know I should play games by calling his # (I was going to hang up...guess I wanted to find out if is roommate was a guy and to hear his voice). But I couldn't help it. <P>Please offer suggestions re: why that message on his phone.<P>Thanks for listening to me,<BR>Kathy

#939961 08/19/01 01:00 PM
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I'm a little confused what was the message? I have caller I.D.and a block on my phone so maybe I can help you out.<BR>cybil

#939962 08/19/01 01:01 PM
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I know that on my phone I use the feature to block calls that block their #'s on purpose. Because there is always a reason that they do that.<BR>I don't know about all area's but in ours even if you block your # when you call they can still *69 and either get that # or it will call that # back.<BR>I don't think you can say that he was actually intentionally blocking your # since you blocked it yourself. There was no way for him to know it was you.

#939963 08/19/01 01:12 PM
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Kathy,<P>I'm not to sure of your question. I guess I would be better answering it if I heard it for myself.(I'm a hands on, or have to see or hear it for meself kind of person.) We have privacy plus on our phone because we kept getting hung up on from those telemarkating machienes. Any # that calls ours and is blocked will not get through unless you press #1 to enable it to show your # on our caller I.d. If it is a private #, Then my phone has a special ring (the # shows up as all Zero's)and you state your name on the phone and I can chose to talk to you or not.<BR>I don't have any advice, but I am like you I would want to know too. I probably would try someone else's phone or payphone. Maybe you could send him a nice greeting card in the mail asking to just talk to you. Don't be pushy, it will just turn him away from you more.<BR>Good luck And God Bless. Sherry<BR>P.S. Keep smiling [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]

#939964 08/19/01 01:16 PM
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[QUOTE]Originally posted by fishlady:<BR><B>I called my H new # earlier (but *67) and I got that message. </B><BR>I somtimes think the phone co. has it set up that way, in the beginning, and you have to UNdo it. Maybe he doesn't know it does that...so call without *67 and see what happens! But don't plan to hang up. Actually have a REASON for calling first.<P><B>I e-mailed him over 1 week ago and didn't get a response. It is over 1 1/2 months since we've talked. That makes it only 2 times we've talked by phone and 2 times by e-mail since separation (almost 3 months ago!)</B><BR>My WH has been gone for 3 months, also, and Friday was the first time I have talked to him AT ALL. That was good, BUT it was an emergency situation, and I'm not sure he would have talked to me otherwise. [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com] The time that goes by doesn't matter. Eventually, he'll HAVE to talk to you again. Don't push, and don't get anxious, and DON"T EXPECT ANYTHING. I started to think that he would NEVER want to talk to me ever again since I wasn't "in his face." Actually, I think the opposite is true! When you aren't talking to them, I think they start to wonder what you're up to! [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]<P><B>Is my imigination getting away from me? I have this huge fear that he has totally moved on and actually can't stand me. I couldn't understand why, we never really fought and got along pretty well.</B><BR>I wouldn't dwell on it. There could be 10 thousand things going on in his head about why he's not calling....my H left me with a NOTE! Not even face to face, and said he wanted a div. Papers were in the mailbox. Then, NO CONTACT> Nothing. Well, 3 months later, when I had an emergency, and called SS, H called me back immediately! Even got scared when I told him I needed to go to hospital next week for procedure....We never fought, he just LEFT one day. [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]<P>Don't have this fear that he's moved on. it's not that simple. He just needed to go because he couldn't face you, Or had too much guilt, OR knew you were going to try to stop him and he felt he had to do this now.....no telling.<P><B>Please offer suggestions re: why that message on his phone.</B><BR>Don't worry about the message on the phone. I got 2 messages "bounced" back to me from H. I got intensely HURT by this "rejection." I thought, "The least he could do was just DELETE them. WHY "bounce" them back to me UNOPENED, and hurt me more???? I was VERY hurt. Turns out (I find out more than a month later) that he LOST his phone, due to not paying the bill!!! So he didn't bounce them, the phone co. did!! I got myself all worried, and hurt over nothing. He didn't do this to me!!! Maybe it's the same for you. Maybe it's just the "auto" setting on their phone, and they're not even aware of it. <P>Take care of YOU, and let him be for awhile! Read, learn, Plan A.<BR>Lupo<BR>

#939965 08/19/01 01:52 PM
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Thanks to all the replies. I know I overreacted. I am getting a little anxious on talking to him. I think the more time that goes by, the harder it is for me to talk to him. I want so bad to hear his voice but really don't have a reason to call other than to see how he is.<P>We are separated not only in marriage but by distance. He is half-way cross country and I guess that makes it worse.<BR>Some days are just harder than others. makes sense I guess.<P>As for the phone message, you're right. Deep down i know it probably has nothing to do with me. In fact, i'm surprised my H would actually spend $$ on caller i.d. since no one ever really calls him. So it is probably his roommates. <P>Thanks again,<BR>kathy

#939966 08/19/01 08:25 PM
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I block all blocked #'s from my caller ID so if they want to call me and get through they have to press *82 to call me and get through.<BR>


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