Boy CB you have become the man of the hour.hehe Anyway here's my question. First did you get a chance to read my post about what's going on with me and H? It's really ugly. I feel really bad about what has happened and am wondering how did we get to this point. My H was served papers by the police today and I have no idea how he's going to take that. I'm hopeing that it will make him wake up and see that this is serious and I will not tolerate that behavior from him again. On the other hand I'm thinking he's going to hate me and of course this is all my fault. The officiers wanted to take him to jail last night for the weekend and I signed papers stating that I did not want that to happen. What's your opinion on this. I can't call him he can't call me so I need a man's opinion. Tomorrow I have to go to courthouse and file for Full PFA I really don't want to do this because my H has never done anything like this before my counselor suggested that I agree to drop it if he agrees to go to counseling for his anger problem. Thanks Chaz.<BR>cybil

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by cybil:<BR><B>Boy CB you have become the man of the hour.hehe Anyway here's my question. First did you get a chance to read my post about what's going on with me and H? It's really ugly.</B><P>sounds like it.<P><B> I feel really bad about what has happened and am wondering how did we get to this point. My H was served papers by the police today and I have no idea how he's going to take that. I'm hopeing that it will make him wake up and see that this is serious and I will not tolerate that behavior from him again.</B><P>this sounds healthy!<P><B>On the other hand I'm thinking he's going to hate me and of course this is all my fault.</B><P>this doesnt sound so healthy, thats like saying a A is the BS's fault. yea they contributed to the marriagae but they wernt the ones making the choices to be off with another person.<P><B>The officiers wanted to take him to jail last night for the weekend and I signed papers stating that I did not want that to happen. What's your opinion on this.</B><P>usually, i say let him sit in jail, take in the full consiquence for his actions. you have boundery set up on tolorance of this now that includes him not going to jail for doing it. <P><B>I can't call him he can't call me so I need a man's opinion. Tomorrow I have to go to courthouse and file for Full PFA I really don't want to do this because my H has never done anything like this before my counselor suggested that I agree to drop it if he agrees to go to counseling for his anger problem.</B><P>my perception on behavior is that the first time is the hardest for an individual to do, so subsequent to that it becomes an act easier to repeat. so that it is his first time doing it may just mean that the next time is easier in coming..<P>so therepy and a serious approach is absolutly neccessary. do not down play the event do not say well its the first time if you dont looks hard at this now it will happen again.<P>I am sorry your having to deal with this.<P><B> Thanks Chaz.</B><P>your welcome, you didnt really have a specific question for me here i hope i addressed your concern.<BR>cybil[/B]<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>