After many months of denial the truth has finally come out. Not because of a willingness on my WS part, but because the proof cannot be denied any longer. So what is next. I'm thinking of simply telling her of my desire to try to save our marriage and give her my reasons, the first and most important being that I love her. I'm tired of the proof gathering because of the pain it has caused me and the lies I received when I presented it. It is not my nature to be that way either. She is not really in a position to leave and actual physical contact will be almost impossible now unless she just flat out says she is going to see him. I don't think that will happen, but I never thought it would get to this stage either.If that should happen I guess I'll be back with another post. Of course there is always the phone e-mail, etc. I know that all contact must end to begin a recovery, but how should this be handled. I'm simply thinking of telling her that I feel for us to have a chance at saving our marriage that she should end all contact and let it go at that. Or should I not say anything and just continue to Plan "A" which I have been doing even when I have presented her with proof. In my mind everytime you present proof it represents an LB. Once it is all out in the open, does it make any sense to make demands like looking at her cell phone records, etc. I know Dr. H's idea about the no contact letter and everything sounds good, and in reality that is the quickest and in the end the least painful way of handling it. But if the WS is in a "fog", which I agree with, the last thing they are going to agree to is to write a no contact letter. I think most people that post on here will agree that most WS's enter a possible attemt at saving the marriage in a less than enthusiastic manner. I consider this a critical point for me and I hope some of you will comment.
