Absolutely not.<P>You probably have that impression because these posts tend to focus on problems and justifications.<P>I freely admit to harboring alot of resentment towards him. And more of that seems to be out in the open following the discovery of my A. As much as he rages at me, I rage back. We're not in a great place in term of our relationship.<P>There are many many admirable qualities to him. Many.<BR>I am not particularily focused on them right now, and don't see an opportunity to post about them either.<P>As far as what do I think failed? Communication.<BR>He stopped meeting many of my needs (some he never did).<BR>He took me for granted, he neglected me. I stopped beating my head against a wall. I am not a nagging harping wife. I rebel against telling him what to do. I tried to convince him of things in my own way (he acknowledges this).<BR>He thought he could skate by and not listen.<BR>He failed to understand the importance, and I failed to stress the importance of certain actions and needs that I had.<P>I never gave him ultimatums. "do this or I'll stop loving you...." To me, it was important that the desire to do those things come from him -- not from me telling him. I wanted the changes in him, but not to the point that he was only doing it for me. That would make him false, and not the person I wanted. <P>I think he's a great guy -- its just that I do not have a strong enough appreciation for the qualities he has, and the ones that are important to me are missing.<P>
