Dave, <P>Consider this a 2 way healing for both of us. I need to post to you so help calm me down but I also want to lend support to you. Ok? <P>Hon, please, please release your pain. You are not throwing her out of your lives, she is choosing (at least at this moment) to remove herself from your family. We will continue to pray for her santity to return. Oh, you can let her know that in a gentle loving way. Maybe that temprary relief will be enough for her to regain her senses. <P>I hate to say it but holding on to her right now may do more harm than good. You have proven beyond a shadow of a doubt that you are the man she is and was proud to marry and be the father to her children. <P>May she one day grace herself and bring back her dignity to come back into the arms of the man we have all come to know and love as "worthatry". You are our friend and brother, Dave. <P>Aloha from the heart. <BR>L.

Dave,<BR>I saw your post when it just popped up yesterday, but I don’t know what to say to you. As far as I see, it is her lost. But life will move on no matter what. You are a better and stronger person now. There is life after this.<P>Take care, <P>OOOO<BR>

WAT-I'm so, so sorry for all you've been thru. And for the way things are continuing for you. I've got no advise for you. . .just feel terrible about all the pain in your life recently.<P>If your W continues with all her plans, I've got no doubt that someday she will wake up to a big fat 2x4 hitting her in the head (like you said Steve told you would happen). She will be very sorry if you're not still there for her.<P>I wish for peace for you, and want you to know I've got tons of respect for you, as do many on this board as you can see. You are a strong, caring, understanding man. . .and your sense of humor adds a nice touch too! Please take care of yourself, and your son (although I know I don't need to say that!).<P>Thinking of you.