I know all the B/S have gotten the stupid answers to there questions. Now what about stupid questions the W?S ask. Here goes. My divorce will be final 10-2. I have 2 kids so cant avoid the witch woman. Had to go to daughters open house last night. W?s wanted me to come by and pick her up. No way. Went to open house met her there gave her two of her credit cards, extra set of keys to her car and final draft of divorce papers and left. Later she calls me and ask, " Are you angery with me?" I couldnt believe it. I told her yes I am, She then wanted to know, " was it something in particular or just the big picture?" At first I was speechless, What the hell does she think. I told her the big picture, You broke my heart, destroyed my life and our family, lied to me told me all those stupid things that W/S tell us. I cant figure it out is this woman really that stupid??

Short answer; YES!<P>But you know, WS's <B>always</B> can't see what anyone else feels or thinks because of that thick fog they're in. I believe it is a self-protection mechanism that kicks in. She was probably really surprised by your anger, especially if you've been Plan A'ing...she may have been lulled by your efforts not to LB.<P>But again YES, I think all WS have been bit by the stupidity bug!!!

I'm just in a small corner way over on the otherside of th room.. but, going to toss this up.. Us BS's do and say some stupid things to..... <P>just trying to be fair to everyone who is respectively here for one reason or another.. and say.. AFFAIRS make everyone involved do and say stupid things...<P>(trying to extinguish a flaming before the flash over begins) Call me the peacekeeper today <P>Austin your wife is not stupid.. maybe unfeeling and uncaring at this point.. <P>Who initiated the divorce? How long have you been in Plan A/B since Discovery?<P>------------------<BR>Semper Fi,<P><B>Husband2You</B><BR>*****<BR><I>···In the valley of the blind the one eye'd man is King···</I><P>· E-mail: <B> husband2you@petroleum.org </B> · ICQ: <B><A HREF="http://wwp.icq.com/1206499" TARGET=_blank>1206499</A></B> · Formerly: <B>E m p t y</B> ·

My XH continues to contact me for no valid reason. And every single time he does, he asks me ... "Do you hate me?"<P>So, I dunno. Do I hate him, NO. Am I angry with him, YES. Do I ever show him that anger, NO. Do I understand fully why he did all the things he did, NO and I NEVER will. Will I eventually forgive him, I HOPE SO. It's my goal.<P>I think his repetitive question to me "Do You Hate Me?" is a stupid question. Anyone want to offer a reason he keeps asking me this. And should I change my answer to "YES" so he'll leave me alone?<P>Jo<P><p>[This message has been edited by Resilient (edited August 24, 2001).]

Jo, tell him you don't hate him, and have many good memories of how it used to be...but you hate his behaviour, and his calling you reminds you of that, so if he cares anything about you, plz don't call. You will let him know when you are feeling such that you would welcome his call. Tell him if he absolutely must contact you to send and email, or letter, and expect no reply.

Consider yourself hugged. Put it out of your mind and replace it with lovely, peaceful, and reassuring thoughts. Here's a great quote to consider by Ralph Waldo Emerson, you've probably heard it before...<P>"To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty, to find the best in others; to leave the world a little better whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is the meaning of success." <P>Have a blessed day, okay? It's going to work out well for you. God will work things out. ("All things work together for good for those who love God..." paraphrasing)