He got pulled over about a mile from the house last night and was arrested for DUI. Breathalizer read .14, so that meant he had to stay in jail overnight. He was madder than all getout because the Sheriff said he couldn't get him out (city cops got him, not county), and because his best buddy, an assistant DA, couldn't get him out because he couldn't get hold of the Police Chief or the City Judge.<P>H called me about 11:15 to come up to the jail and get him. I waited around until almost 2 am, and then went home.<P>I am fed up with the drinking. H doesn't get drunk as often as he used to, but he generally likes to have a drink or two in the evenings. Last night, he went to a cookout at a friend's hunting camp.<P>Anyway, H has diabetes, and should not be drinking at all. At one time, he also had elevated liver enzymes, which also means he shouldn't drink. H complains all the time about feeling bad, and how his feet hurt (from diabetic neuropathy). I also believe that his diabetes (plus the drinking) is affecting our sex life. I found Viagra in his medicine cabinet, but he doesn't know I found it.<P>Anyway, since I'm fed up with worrying about him drinking and driving, in addition to his health issues, I am thinking of doing an intervention type thing. I'm going to lay it on the line...that I love him and am concerned about his health, but that if the drinking doesn't stop completely, I may not be around to nurse him through a diabetic coma.<P>How should I word this?<P>Any suggestions would be much appreciated!

LC,<BR>I don't really know much about this, other than beginning to drink too much myself in the bad times. <P>When it comes to one's health, the person has to make that decision alone. <P>Nobody can force it...you can withdraw support and companionship, set boundaries. But I know I basically had to decide if the evening escape was worth how crappy I felt in the mornings, and if I was capable of moderation...and what is moderation? <P>And, my H said he wouldn't sit through another alcohol enhanced angry session. It did make a difference to me when he said that because I KNOW he knows how to walk out that door. I gave drinking up for Lent last Feb, and have been ok (or at least much better), though drinking some, since then.