Hi Austin I read something that your replied on sad dad's thread about getting to the truth that we as BS's need to know the truth. I believe that with all my heart and feel that this is the only way that I will get through this. Brief history H and I togehter 16 yrs, married 12 have had communicatin problems throughout our marriage 3 children. 6 mos. ago he was not coming home right after work as he usually did, very secretive when he was on the computer, had mentioned a female co-worker to me that she was a nice lady blah blah. I really didn't think anything at first. We had been arguing for weeks to the point that I ask him to leave. He did stayed at a hotel for 2 wks., then moved into an eff. apartment. He got a cell phone very first call was to the OW, she to is married h continues to say that they are just friends I've tried to talk to her but she is nothing less than a b**** to me very disrespectful to me. I even tried to talk to her H once but she has convinced him that I am crazy. I have 5 mos. worth of cell phone bills with her home phone and cell #'s and even her work ext. all over it. I month 50 plus calls. Is this just a friendship? I am conmsumed with getting to the bottom of this. I feel that it is the only way that I can move forward by knowing the truth. I have contacted a P.I. but I don't have the $500 to do it. Others have told me that they were spotted here or there but I have no proof only hear say. Any suggestions. I really need to do this for me. Also her H seems like a decent guy and he supposedly has suspicions to I do not know where he works and I can't risk calling their home again. This is not her first A it is for my H. I to want to believe that it is only EA but fear that it has become PA. Any suggestions? I desperately need the truth so that I can just let go. <BR>cybil