Well, I know that many of you didn't agree with my method, but something has changed with my H...<P>He is kissing me again...holding my hand...<P>He has always known where I was 100% of the time...I am hardly ever late and always call as soon as I know I am going to be late...I AM EXTREMELY PREDICTABLE...<P>...my going out for a couple of hours after work and not telling him or answering my cell, scared him...he actually thought I was going on a 'weekend' with a former coworker...(I had told him how this guy had invited me to go and visit some mutual friends in Central Cali...I told him I had no intention of going...and if I did, it certainly wasn't for some 'love' tryst...please...like I am some femme fatale...but he went berzerk that night)...and when I didn't answer my phone he extrapolated the two and went berzerk again...his mom said he was a crazy person...<P>I was/am simply amazed...just three months ago he expressed relief that I might find someone else...even told me the 'things' other men would like about me...<P>I know there is a lot we have to talk about, but I am hopeful...I think he is realizing that he doesn't want to lose me...especially the 'sexual' me...this is a connection that has been very strong for us...now if we can only make the other connections as strong and intimate I think we will have a chance...<P>I probably won't be able to post as much as I have been...school and my many duties will not allow me to...but I will check in on my lunch and after school when I can...as well as the nights when I am free...<P>Anyone who wants to email me can reach me @ InShockInCali@excite.com....<P>Love,<BR>Cali<P><BR><P>------------------<BR><I>Live Impeccably In Your Word.<BR>Don't Take Anything Personally.<BR>Make No Assumptions.<BR>Do Your Best Always. </I>

cali,<BR>I'm sooo glad things are going well for you. You truly deserve it. you keep the faith too. watch out for the twists and turns - you know that. I'm so happy you are seeing affection and results. Please keep us posted.<P>(((((cali)))))

Cali,<BR>I hope it is a break through for you - any way it ultimately happened. I know we want to turn back the clock and be loved like we once were. Remember your advice to me once - about not pushing. I know its hard. Just hang in there. after shock

Good for you!! I am so glad that something clicked inside of him!! However it was that it happened.<P>Will still pray for the two of you!!<P>Please do check in and keep us posted, but use your time wisely!!<P>Dawn

Good luck, Cali. I am glad your H is starting to show you the affection/appreciation that you deserve.<P>HbH

Guys!<P>I am so excited and probably too hopeful...but it has not been a one day occurrance...it has continued throughout the weekend...<P>He hasn't averted his face...he's squeezing my hand...stroking my hair...<P>I am falling on my knees and praying that it continues...<P>Grinning Large today!<P>Cali<P>------------------<BR><I>Live Impeccably In Your Word.<BR>Don't Take Anything Personally.<BR>Make No Assumptions.<BR>Do Your Best Always. </I>

Hey, way to go Cali!<P>I noticed this with my WH too....when he was in his apartment, I started going out to places (with the kids usually), such as restaurants, or local coffee bars that had live bands playing. When I got home I nearly always had several messages from him on the answering machine, "Where are you", "I've been trying to call you all evening" sort of thing. He wasn't used to me being so independant, not being predictably 'there' when he called, and it shook him up too. I intend to keep up my independance now he's back - I'll sometimes just give him a call and say "I've decided to take the girls shopping so I'll be back late - cook yourself something, but I'll eat out with the kids, Love you!" ...... Well, he DID say he wanted me to be more independant.... <P>Best of luck Cali,<BR>Paint

Good luck Cali I hope things work out for you. <P>Seems my H is starting to come around just a little bit. All we can do is pray that things start falling into place for the better.