Hi hopeless,<P>Perhaps Anna Lu was not online yesterday, but was reading this and have read some of your other posts and felt inclined to answer. Hope you don't mind.<P>If you leave everything behind to start over, I think you'll just run right into the same problems because there is something about you... Only you can figure that out.<P>If you can't figure out why you stay married, no one can figure that out for you.<P>IF you want to figure out a way to avoid infidelity in your current or future relationships, try reading this article, it's very interesting, especially the part where Harley advised, <P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>I once counseled a man who fit that description. No matter how you looked at their marriage, his wife met every need. Oh, my, she was unbelievable! And yet, he would call women, almost at random, for dates. Some of these dates turned into long-term relationships. One afternoon, playing softball, he broke his jaw sliding into 2nd, and ended up in the hospital. His wife came right over to be with him, and so did three other girlfriends, none of whom knew he was married, or about each other. With his jaw wired shut, he was left to listen to these four women sort things out. He and his wife were in to see me right after he was released. <P><B>Whenever I counsel someone who seems incurably attracted to the opposite sex, I give them the following rules to avoid temptation: <OL TYPE=1><LI> Spend all your recreational time either alone or with your spouse, <LI> no meals alone with someone of the opposite sex, <LI> no rides in cars alone with those of the opposite sex,<LI> never tell someone of the opposite sex thay you find them attractive or that you like them and <LI> if someone of the opposite sex ever tells you that they find you attractive, start talking about how much you love your spouse.</B></OL> <P>That's essentially what I told my broken-jawed client to do, but he couldn't do it. His wife eventually divorced him when she picked up her 3rd venereal disease. But many others have followed my advice, and have spared their spouses the pain of an affair. <BR><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>The above is an excerpt from Harley's Q&A on <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi5024b_qa.html" TARGET=_blank>Escaping the Jaws of Infidelity</A><p>[This message has been edited by BINthereDUNthat (edited September 04, 2001).]
