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Love busters ?
#944148 09/04/01 01:04 PM
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don't know if i am in the right place! Hope so.Have been trying to overcome LB for couple of weeks, seems like forever. In the Dishonesty section of questions, I did them, and unfortunately, the last 3 were "yes" answers. How do i overcome this? I very much want this to happen, that he can tell me things and me not get upset, but how do i do it? We had a issue last night, and his reason for not telling me, was so he could prolong a confrontation, which was going to happen anyway. i can see his point but, at the same time, it didn't help. So i want to be able to put his mind at ease to tell me things. Should i just say something like "well i'm glad you told me, thank you." How do i get him to trust me that i am willing to try? Any advice?
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#944149 09/04/01 03:28 PM
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I hope you'll get some more responses, but I saw you hadn't gotten any yet, and thought I would give it a try. Have you read Harley's book Love Busters? It's wonderful.<P>Basically, I think you are doing great, just by making an effort! Good for you! Now give it some time... long-time habits are hard to break, and will take some time for hubby to notice and believe the changes. Smile, listen very carefully to him, repeat what he says to you to be sure you understand him, accept what he tells you calmly and lovingly - no judgement or quick reactions. <P>Good luck, and I hope to see what other suggestons are here. [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]
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#944150 09/05/01 06:23 AM
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ditto Faith - can't add anything to it.<P>Most all MB principles take PTC - patience, time, and consistency.<P>We should all get on island time and slow down. None of this can be hurried.<P>Good luck,<BR>WAT

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