Okay..<BR>In the inviting thread I made on August 30th<P>Topic: If your L U R K I N G . . . Its OKAY... Please read!<BR>( <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum37/HTML/012174.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum37/HTML/012174.html</A> )<P>I posted I asked the lurkers to come out and say hello. I knew that there were going to be many people say hi.. and there are probably a couple of dozen more still lurking. But for now.. I'm cutting and pasting the New Members situation here.. for help from the MBer's.<P>Although I am strong and determined to help each and everyone of these new people.. I can't do it all on my own.<P>Some of us have the capability to 'coach' these new people for a few days to get them into the MB spirit. I am calling on all of you MBers for help.<P>I titled this: New Memeber: (members name) [Original Post] Coaching Request.<P>Title denotes that this is a new member.<BR>Their name<BR>their original post quoted<BR>and <BR>a coaching request from the OT (Ole Time) Members.<P>So this is where you OT members come in. I suggesting a new process here.. <P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR><BR>Hello to all-<BR>I haven't been hanging around too long, but all of you have been a big source of support and advice. My story doesn't differ that much from everyone else's. <BR>I am the BS. We have been married 7 years("celebrated" #7 2wks after d-day!). We have two beautiful daughters ages 5 and 3. D-day was 6/12/01. Prior to that things around the house had been pretty tense. H had been acting very strange and we had many many arguements.<P>On d-day H said the usual--"love you but not in love with you" "don't know what I want" "no intamacy at all" etc. <BR>But also stated that A had been over for a couple of weeks. Had lasted only a couple of months. Strong EA/led to PA. Both had decided they were hurting their families and wanted to the right thing. OW is married with one child. He left for a couple days then came home and we "started" to talk some things out. <P>Things were ok for a bit then in our second MC session he states that "our life is sh## and we are pretending that its not". Since then I have been on the roller coaster. Not knowing what feelings I am going to encounter in any given day. H that is distant and course or H that is somewhat there but at least not grough. <P>He is at least at home and he does state that if he didn't want to be there at all he would have been gone. I'm just taking it a day at a time and reading here as much as I can and reading the books. We are going to fill out the ENQ this weekend. I'm hoping that will help give insight to both of us. <P>Thank you all for being there even we don't know that you are. Your words are always welcome and appreciated. Thanks for the invite to share. Sorry I rattled on so long.<BR><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>So who is going start off Coaching this New Member?<P>------------------<BR>Semper Fi,<P>Husband2You<BR>*****<BR>···In the valley of the blind the one eye'd man is King···<P>· E-mail: husband2you@petroleum.org · ICQ: 1206499 · Formerly: E m p t y ·<P>------------------<BR>Semper Fi,<P><B>Husband2You</B><BR>*****<BR><I>···In the valley of the blind the one eye'd man is King···</I><P>· E-mail: <B> husband2you@petroleum.org </B> · ICQ: <B><A HREF="http://wwp.icq.com/1206499" TARGET=_blank>1206499</A></B> · Formerly: <B>E m p t y</B> ·