<I>Every relationship in your life can be healed, every relationship can be wonderful, but it's always going to begin with you. You need to have the courage to use the truth, to talk with yourself with the truth, to be completely honest with yourself. Perhaps you don't have to be honest with the whole world, but you can be honest with yourself. Perhaps you cannot control what is going to happen around you but you can control your own reactions. Those reactions are going to guide the dream of your life, your personal dream. It's your reactions that make you happy or unhappy.<P>Your reactions are the key to having a wonderful life. If you can learn to control your own reactions, then you can change your routines, and change your life. </I><P>from "The Mastery of Love" by don Miguel Ruiz<P>C_A_L_I<P>------------------<BR><I>Be Impeccable With Your Word<BR>Don't Take Anything Personally<BR>Don't Make Assumptions<BR>Always Do Your Best </I><p>[This message has been edited by CaringAndLovingIndividual (edited September 06, 2001).]

Very true and well said. It is something I know I need to work on!! The hard part is the self examination and what you might uncover.

I've learned that in order for your marriage to work, you have to work on yourself first.