But, tonight, I won't. LOL, I will spare all of you nice people. However, what I can say is I would like to tell my story of my 2 worlds, and I would like to believe I would hear many good thoughts. But just the fact that I am a woman, the mom, the wife, somehow makes my mistakes harder for other's to understand? I have been to other message boards, and found that most of what I got was flaming by scorned women. Would it be the same here? I have enough guilt and confusion in my heart, head and soul. I need a place I can go to, where I can tell "my tale" and not have rocks thrown at me. Somewhere I can be heard, maybe understood. Is it possible I may have found the place? It would be great if it is. It is an awful heavy weight to carry around inside me.<BR>Thanks<BR>2worlds

sure give it a shot, other women, or wandering spouse (which are you) are reasonably welcome, but no gaurantees a flame or two might erupt. Mostly it is how you behave that counts. I am a ws, been here4 months or so, 100's of posts, and only a couple flames...so let's hear it.

Yes please do tell your tale. One thing you will learn from this site is that most of us BSes(betrayed spouses)feel that the Wayward Spouse(WS)can teach us some things we might not get from our own WS. <P> Like SNL said, you may get some flames from a few(and I may be one at some point)but for the most part you will be welcome here. BSes get the occasional flame also. And most likely it is from another BS. Just realize that these people are trying to give you a wake up call, a kick in the pants so to speak. You will come to appreciate them for it.<P> jd<p>[This message has been edited by jdmac1 (edited September 08, 2001).]

You are here at marriage builders. Welcome. Everyone is free to post their story. If you have read some of the stories on the just found out site, you will find a variety of situations. Most of us here are interested in restoring our marriages. In the interim we learn to become better people. <P>There is a welcome package I can send a bit later. In the meantime, please post your story.<P>L. <BR>

Let 'er rip 2Worlds. <P>In seven days I have learned more about myself than I could have ever imagined with years of counseling. I have found this to be one of the many tools necessary and available for me to find myself, rediscover what is truly important, and learn the necessary steps to put things back together. I call it "Perspective Central". <P>I started with a shred of hope, and the caring people here have helped me come to know that my "shred" is all it takes. <P>You're in good company. And your presence here is no coincidence. <P>Let it out and this place will help keep you grounded, focused, and most importanly, committed. <P><BR>

2worlds:<P>In March (13 or 14) I posted here for the first time in the Emotional Needs Forum under the title "Is She Having An Emotional Affair?".<P>In less than two weeks I was able to understand so much from my post and other related posts on Emotional Affairs and how destructive they can be to marriages.<P>Of course I had spent HOURS UPON HOURS checking the Boards.<P>I had had only one person try to bash me and she, in turn, was bashed by others for trying to bash me, so you can rest assured that you have come to the right place.<P>This Board has helped me so much that I no longer bring the subject up with my wife — not because I am not still hurting — but because I now understand so much more about why she did what she did and didn't do what she didn't do.<P>In two weeks I understood more than I did in the previous three years, just by visiting these sites.<P>I don't post much now and, for months, I have not revisited my original question in EN on March 13 or 14 as the story represents, for me, too much hurt, especially as my wife still thinks she has done nothing wrong and has still not apologized even though is is now 3.5 years after the fact.<P>After reading a contribution by SKM, a WS, I believe I understood why this was so. She has helped so many others with her tear-jerking story and will help you once you ask.<P>So, go ahead and post. We'll read and reply.<P>Clyde<p>[This message has been edited by ClydeA (edited September 08, 2001).]

Welcome TW.<P>We'd like to hear your story. This is a Marriage Builders Site, as Orchid mentioned. There are BS and WS here alike, trying to put their marriages and familes back together.<P>I hope we can help you by offerng support and offering you ways to use the MB Tools that the Harley's have developed to get thru whatever Marriage crisis or conflict you're faced with.<P>Best,<BR>Jo

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by 2worlds:<BR><B>Is it possible I may have found the place? </B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>2worlds,<P>This IS the place. I can echo what many others have already stated about just how much help this place is... for anybody... WS.... BS... people just looking for improvements... all. <P>I have been both the BS & WS and have received nothing but helpful suggestions and questions since posting "My Saga" on the EN board a short time ago. <P>If you've got an hour or so (lol)... go to this link and read my saga... and if *I* can post that "mess"... then surely you can post yours.<BR> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum8/HTML/005878.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum8/HTML/005878.html</A> <P>Also just in case you don't have the time to read it... here's a cut and paste for you to consider in regards to your question about posting here:<P>===============<BR>"I had browsed many forums similar to this one over the months and had often thought about posting my saga several times, but never did. In the end, I just didn’t feel “comfortable” posting it at those other sites that I’d been to." <P>"Well after about 6 weeks of reading (lurking) in here…. and I do mean reading a WHOLE LOT (one whole week of which was a vacation week for me)…. almost to the point of pissing my wife off (LB alert!, lol)…. I finally felt “safe” posting my saga in here." <P>"Even though “my saga” is a VERY disgusting account of periods in my life (what would my 15 year old think?) that I am not at all proud of, I felt like I “needed” to “air my dirty laundry” here for several reasons….. 1) to better help myself/my marriage…. &…. 2) to better be able help others." <P>"Now that it’s ALL out there for EVERYONE to see, then maybe folks can respond to my posts &/or questions with a better knowledge of where I’m “coming from”. By that same token if/when I reply to other’s situations and questions, then they also know where I’m “coming from”." <BR>===========<P>And in a follow-up reply I said:<P>==========<BR>"As for my current status…. I have really come a long way in the past six weeks or so (at least mentally), and sincerely, I owe it all to this place. I am quite certain that the good Lord had a hand in making this place pop up at the top, when I did a search in a search engine." <P>"It has helped me beyond what words could possibly describe to read so many of the stories and lessons in here." <BR>===========<P>So... go ahead... you've got nothing to lose... and the world to gain.<P>Sincerely,<BR>Saga-man<P><BR>

2Worlds:<P>I have been on both sides of the coin: the wayward and the betrayed.<P>Which is more painful? After much contemplation, I feel more pain at have betrayed my wife than I ever felt when I was betrayed by my exW.<P>Why? Because, utlimately, not only was I not true to her, I was not true to myself.<P>It sounds like you realize the enormity of what you have done. That is a huge first step. Together, the people here learn daily how to take additional steps ... to build marriages; and, failing that, to build ourselves into something better.<P>Godspeed,<BR>STL

2Worlds:<P>Guess you were away for the weekend. We're still here waiting to respond to your story.<P>Clyde

Just realized she is now posted under the heading "Ummm! Volume One" in General Questions Two.<P>Clyde