Well my day actually went better than I expected. Called H this morning and he was on his way out for coffee ask me if I wanted some and I said no I made coffee and he said okay I'll be over I told him that I was just about to get in the shower he said all the better. I said Happy Anniversary and he said it back to me. He came over and I was emotional. He left and said he'd meet me at D's game he did sat next to me and then spotted a co-worker and went to talk to her (I can't stand her major gossip queen ) he sat there with her and gabbed for awhile and he made me mad but I didnt say anything. After the game he came over and we took the kids bowling and then dropped them off at my parents and went to his "spot" and made love. I cried a little bit boy I hate being emotional. Then we went to dinner he came back to the house for a little dessert. he he. Then he went back to the spot.I really wanted him to spend the night and he said he felt uncomfortable. I don't understand that. He hugged and kissed me good bye. He will be here in the morning to get the kids off to school because I will be in N.Y. with my father who is having surgery tomorrow. Please remember him in your prayers. I talked to H about going to counseling he said he doesn't have time I said you don't have an hour to go to counseling not even for us for yourself he said I just dont know. I didn't push it. He did say again that he is not moving back hime until he is ready. I told him that it may be to late. He said then it will be his fault and he will have to deal with that. I also told him I feel as though there is something that he is not telling me and I'm afarid that he may have fallen inlove with this OP he said I'm not in love with anyone. I said I know that you don't want to hurt me and I'm sure it will be hard for you to tell me because of that. He said I've told you before I am not in love with anyone. There is no other woman in my life. I ask do you love me he said sometimes, I care very much for you and what happens to you. I just don't understand how we can be so close intimately but he says he feels uncomfortable staying here. Makes no sense to me. I ask him what is holding him back from coming home and he said it's him and I ask why he said I'm afarid things will go back to the way they were. I tried to assure him that I didn't want that either but part of me thinks I'm still allowing him to have his cake and eat it too. Told him that what we've been through could make our marriage stronger he said maybe maybe not. Any advice/suggestions here? Oh yeah he bought me perfume for the annie and I bought him a Dallas Cowboys mug(his team) and inside was a gold earring. He was wearing this diamond stud at least I think it's a diamond and I thought that it might be from the so called friend OW. He didn't want to accept it but did and ask me to put it in for him. Sorry this is so long I'm just rambling here. Can any of you WS's answer this next question is my M over? Would WH even want to spend time w/me today if he thought it was over or am I again reading into things? Gotta get to bed have to leave for N.Y. at 3:45am. Thanks for listening.<BR>cybil

cybil<BR>I'm not a WS but I can tell your M is far from over. Happy Anniversary-despite the circumstances.

<B>HAPPY ANNIVERSARY</B>, Cybil!!!! Your special day sounded simply "delicious" and I'd say that your marriage is way far from over Hang in there, toots.....it will get better and better and better....(fingers crossed!)<P>------------------<BR><B>Time heals all wounds as long as you DON'T pick at them!</B>

Hi Cybil,<P>Happy anniversary..... seems to be the time of year. So many here are having anniversaries, or are there just soo many of us here? LOL!!! <P>Anyways your H spent the day with you and your family and then with just you. This is good. Quite a bit to ask from a foggy guy....... for now my dear that will have to be all he can give. Can he do more? Will he? Time will tell, if he keeps this type of conduct up, how can he stay away? In the meantime, chin up, be good and pretty as a sweet pea...... make him wonder what yo are up to.... and take care of yourself. Down days may come but up ones are there also. Take note of the good days and try your part to keep it that way. Don't take too much offense if he doesn't hold up his end quite yet...... he is still a bit shakey and unsteady in his ways. Hm....... given you a lot to think about? Hope so. Also hope you can see some hope in this post, otherwise it is just a lot of rambling......LOL <P>Take care,<BR>L. <BR>

Happy Anniversary, Cybil.<P>I will pray that your next Anni you and H will be in True Recovery and your marriage will be on it's way to what you always dreamed. Don't give up hope, Sweetie.<P>Love,<BR>Jo

Happy Anniverary Cybil!!<P>Great to hear that you had a wonderful day. Things are looking up. Best wishes

Thanks for all the replies. You truly made my day. Getting ready to leave for N.Y. I'll post later tonight to give everyone an update on my father's surgery.<BR>cybil