Orchid,<P>Yes, it was very consuming thing on my life. I dont understand it either. <P>Yes, there are two small boys 11 & 8. I dont want them to suffer or be involved like I was when growing up. I would love to get away and spend quality time together, but dont think that will happen right now. The A isnt new to her, the problem is i didnt communicate many if any details about the A at the time except that it happened, she is still wanting answers as to why and i'm not sure how or why it happened.<P>Another problem is that i'm always sad, dont know why. I'm dealing with that in counseling.<P>------------------<BR>

Orchid,<P>Yes, it was very consuming thing on my life. I dont understand it either. <P>Yes, there are two small boys 11 & 8. I dont want them to suffer or be involved like I was when growing up. I would love to get away and spend quality time together, but dont think that will happen right now. The A isnt new to her, the problem is i didnt communicate many if any details about the A at the time except that it happened, she is still wanting answers as to why and i'm not sure how or why it happened.<P>Another problem is that i'm always sad, dont know why. I'm dealing with that in counseling.<P>------------------<BR>

Orchid,<P>Yes, it was very consuming thing on my life. I dont understand it either. <P>Yes, there are two small boys 11 & 8. I dont want them to suffer or be involved like I was when growing up. I would love to get away and spend quality time together, but dont think that will happen right now. The A isnt new to her, the problem is i didnt communicate many if any details about the A at the time except that it happened, she is still wanting answers as to why and i'm not sure how or why it happened.<P>Another problem is that i'm always sad, dont know why. I'm dealing with that in counseling.<P>------------------<BR>

Orchid,<P>Yes, it was very consuming thing on my life. I dont understand it either. <P>Yes, there are two small boys 11 & 8. I dont want them to suffer or be involved like I was when growing up. I would love to get away and spend quality time together, but dont think that will happen right now. The A isnt new to her, the problem is i didnt communicate many if any details about the A at the time except that it happened, she is still wanting answers as to why and i'm not sure how or why it happened.<P>Another problem is that i'm always sad, dont know why. I'm dealing with that in counseling.<P>------------------<BR>

Orchid,<P>Yes, it was very consuming thing on my life. I dont understand it either. <P>Yes, there are two small boys 11 & 8. I dont want them to suffer or be involved like I was when growing up. I would love to get away and spend quality time together, but dont think that will happen right now. The A isnt new to her, the problem is i didnt communicate many if any details about the A at the time except that it happened, she is still wanting answers as to why and i'm not sure how or why it happened.<P>Another problem is that i'm always sad, dont know why. I'm dealing with that in counseling.<P>------------------<BR>

Orchid,<P>Yes, it was very consuming thing on my life. I dont understand it either. <P>Yes, there are two small boys 11 & 8. I dont want them to suffer or be involved like I was when growing up. I would love to get away and spend quality time together, but dont think that will happen right now. The A isnt new to her, the problem is i didnt communicate many if any details about the A at the time except that it happened, she is still wanting answers as to why and i'm not sure how or why it happened.<P>Another problem is that i'm always sad, dont know why. I'm dealing with that in counseling.<P>------------------<BR>

Orchid,<P>Yes, it was very consuming thing on my life. I dont understand it either. <P>Yes, there are two small boys 11 & 8. I dont want them to suffer or be involved like I was when growing up. I would love to get away and spend quality time together, but dont think that will happen right now. The A isnt new to her, the problem is i didnt communicate many if any details about the A at the time except that it happened, she is still wanting answers as to why and i'm not sure how or why it happened.<P>Another problem is that i'm always sad, dont know why. I'm dealing with that in counseling.<P>------------------<BR>

Orchid,<P>I'm sure i feel alot like your husband did. Yes, the internet became a very consuming part of my life. I dont understand the power of it either and now i'm having to deal with the ramifications. I have told her how important our M is, she just doesnt want to hear it now. She said it's too late and that she has been telling me for years that we had problems and i agnored her plead. I know i have to reestablish her trust in me and that's going to take awhile to achieve. <P>We have two young children (11 & 8) and do not want them involved or displaced in anyway, just like i was when i was growing up. <P>Yes my A was 15 years ago and i didnt give her the answers she was looking for then and still havent given her answers to why it happened. I'm not sure why it happened and didnt know what to tell her.<P>M<P>------------------<BR>

Orchid,<P>I'm sure i feel alot like your husband did. Yes, the internet became a very consuming part of my life. I dont understand the power of it either and now i'm having to deal with the ramifications. I have told her how important our M is, she just doesnt want to hear it now. She said it's too late and that she has been telling me for years that we had problems and i agnored her plead. I know i have to reestablish her trust in me and that's going to take awhile to achieve. <P>We have two young children (11 & 8) and do not want them involved or displaced in anyway, just like i was when i was growing up. <P>Yes my A was 15 years ago and i didnt give her the answers she was looking for then and still havent given her answers to why it happened. I'm not sure why it happened and didnt know what to tell her.<P>M<P>------------------<BR>

Orchid,<P>I'm sure i feel alot like your husband did. Yes, the internet became a very consuming part of my life. I dont understand the power of it either and now i'm having to deal with the ramifications. I have told her how important our M is, she just doesnt want to hear it now. She said it's too late and that she has been telling me for years that we had problems and i agnored her plead. I know i have to reestablish her trust in me and that's going to take awhile to achieve. <P>We have two young children (11 & 8) and do not want them involved or displaced in anyway, just like i was when i was growing up. <P>Yes my A was 15 years ago and i didnt give her the answers she was looking for then and still havent given her answers to why it happened. I'm not sure why it happened and didnt know what to tell her.<P>M<P>------------------<BR>

Orchid,<P>I'm sure i feel alot like your husband did. Yes, the internet became a very consuming part of my life. I dont understand the power of it either and now i'm having to deal with the ramifications. I have told her how important our M is, she just doesnt want to hear it now. She said it's too late and that she has been telling me for years that we had problems and i agnored her plead. I know i have to reestablish her trust in me and that's going to take awhile to achieve. <P>We have two young children (11 & 8) and do not want them involved or displaced in anyway, just like i was when i was growing up. <P>Yes my A was 15 years ago and i didnt give her the answers she was looking for then and still havent given her answers to why it happened. I'm not sure why it happened and didnt know what to tell her.<P>M<P>------------------<BR>

Orchid,<P>I'm sure i feel alot like your husband did. Yes, the internet became a very consuming part of my life. I dont understand the power of it either and now i'm having to deal with the ramifications. I have told her how important our M is, she just doesnt want to hear it now. She said it's too late and that she has been telling me for years that we had problems and i agnored her plead. I know i have to reestablish her trust in me and that's going to take awhile to achieve. <P>We have two young children (11 & 8) and do not want them involved or displaced in anyway, just like i was when i was growing up. <P>Yes my A was 15 years ago and i didnt give her the answers she was looking for then and still havent given her answers to why it happened. I'm not sure why it happened and didnt know what to tell her.<P>M<P>------------------<BR>

Orchid,<P>I'm sure i feel alot like your husband did. Yes, the internet became a very consuming part of my life. I dont understand the power of it either and now i'm having to deal with the ramifications. I have told her how important our M is, she just doesnt want to hear it now. She said it's too late and that she has been telling me for years that we had problems and i agnored her plead. I know i have to reestablish her trust in me and that's going to take awhile to achieve. <P>We have two young children (11 & 8) and do not want them involved or displaced in anyway, just like i was when i was growing up. <P>Yes my A was 15 years ago and i didnt give her the answers she was looking for then and still havent given her answers to why it happened. I'm not sure why it happened and didnt know what to tell her.<P>M<P>------------------<BR>

Orchid,<P>I'm sure i feel alot like your husband did. Yes, the internet became a very consuming part of my life. I dont understand the power of it either and now i'm having to deal with the ramifications. I have told her how important our M is, she just doesnt want to hear it now. She said it's too late and that she has been telling me for years that we had problems and i agnored her plead. I know i have to reestablish her trust in me and that's going to take awhile to achieve. <P>We have two young children (11 & 8) and do not want them involved or displaced in anyway, just like i was when i was growing up. <P>Yes my A was 15 years ago and i didnt give her the answers she was looking for then and still havent given her answers to why it happened. I'm not sure why it happened and didnt know what to tell her.<P>M<P>------------------<BR>

Orchid,<P>I'm sure i feel alot like your husband did. Yes, the internet became a very consuming part of my life. I dont understand the power of it either and now i'm having to deal with the ramifications. I have told her how important our M is, she just doesnt want to hear it now. She said it's too late and that she has been telling me for years that we had problems and i agnored her plead. I know i have to reestablish her trust in me and that's going to take awhile to achieve. <P>We have two young children (11 & 8) and do not want them involved or displaced in anyway, just like i was when i was growing up. <P>Yes my A was 15 years ago and i didnt give her the answers she was looking for then and still havent given her answers to why it happened. I'm not sure why it happened and didnt know what to tell her.<P>M<P>------------------<BR>

Orchid,<P>I'm sure i feel alot like your husband did. Yes, the internet became a very consuming part of my life. I dont understand the power of it either and now i'm having to deal with the ramifications. I have told her how important our M is, she just doesnt want to hear it now. She said it's too late and that she has been telling me for years that we had problems and i agnored her plead. I know i have to reestablish her trust in me and that's going to take awhile to achieve. <P>We have two young children (11 & 8) and do not want them involved or displaced in anyway, just like i was when i was growing up. <P>Yes my A was 15 years ago and i didnt give her the answers she was looking for then and still havent given her answers to why it happened. I'm not sure why it happened and didnt know what to tell her.<P>M<P>------------------<BR>

Hi,<P>Posting here to see if I can see past pg 1. <P>L.

Hi Ump,<P>Ok, so I got past pg 1 and saw the multiple posts. This doesn't always happen, just sometimes. Don't let it stop you from posting though. <P>About your non communicado, hm.... need to work on that. Prove to her you mean it this time. What do you think it would take to show that? Think and write it down as an excercise, you might surprise yourself. <P>L.

Orchid,<P>My W doesnt want to hear what im willing to work on, she said i had years to work on them and refused. I dont know what to do, if there is anything I can do at this point. I feel hopeless and helpless in this matter and as I look back over the years I regret all that has happened. I know i cant turn back the clock.<P>M<P>p.s--sorry for all the post, didnt know if they were going through or not.<P>------------------<BR>