Been thinking on this one for awile now. I've been doing Plan A now for 6 months. My h never left he stayed but doesn't want to work on the marriage. Granted, I already know that pushing the subject gets nowwhere fast. So, what do I do? I feel like I'm caught between a rock and a hard place. My H told me more about his A last night and it felt like D-Day all over again, just not as bad. Turns out he slept with her before the day that i thought which in my mind tweaked my brain. i had just started getting myself resigned to the fact this is when it was and then boom. Lied to again. He was like, What difference does it make now when it was??? i'm like, well, you now and she knows, but not me?? Your leaving pieces of my life in the air. He said again that he only slept with her once and i'm like PLEASE DON"T Patronize me like that!! I'm not that dumb!!! He got his Bible out and swore it was only once. He asked me when i was going to let this go. I said well, until i feel all or any of my questions are answered openly and honestly, to my satisfaction, then no. I'll keep asking every once in awile.I know i'm throwing a pity party, but i keep wondering why am i still with him?? he has caused me so much pain this year.Paytonrose

(((Paytonrose))) I'm so sorry for your pain. We share it, believe me. My H is still lying to me after 2 1/2 months back home. I can't understand someone telling you that they love you, then continuing to put the OP (and themselves) before you. I struggle every day with whether this is worth it or not. I hurt so much. I feel like jello today! Prayers go out to you.