This is my second post... I posted my "story" the day before...I really just have to I guess vent... so please bear with me! WE got into a major arugment last night... (they always happen after he spends hours talking on the interenet to this friend of his that he's had for a long time...--might I add here for those that hasn't read my "story" that we both went outside our marriage and this is NOT the one he was with, completely different person it just erks me and i guess my jealousy gets to me) anyway.. about 4:30 I just lost it after he was on phone with her.. he has told me to leave before but then tells me to stay.. I feel as long as I'm here he should have a little decency and understanding how this 'friend" affects me... (another story in itself) He tells me to leave today.. I finally end up laying in bed in there in my corner and then he turns to me hugs me and says he's sorry... continues the night wrapped around me until the phone rings.. afterwards I turn to him and he's like in disgust... I told him to give me a month and I will have my things out which he says he will take and put in storage.. and then he says i should go ahead and stay til the end of the week so i can get another paycheck.... I'm losing my mind ... I love him so much and have wanted to work this out so much but he say he doesn't want me or a relationship.. the thing is i get on here and all the histroy stuff is all about being single again looking for relationships.... I confronted him about that and he denied that too.. I know i need to move on but it's so hard... I am getting on a bus for sure no later than Tuesday... I wonder if time apart will for sure be the wedge or if it will help???? Thanks for listening to me ramble....<p>[This message has been edited by patientlyconfused (edited September 16, 2001).]

I am so sorry to hear of this plan of action on your part. Are you sure it is time for this? I am not sure I can offer any advice, but I can offer a {{{HUGGGGGGGGGG}}}.<P>God I hate how people here continue to hurt with all that is going on! Just another piece of evidence that WS fog can be so deep and so selfish! This may not be where I need to be today...I don't have an prophetic words of wisdom...just feeling numb but wanted you to know support is there!<P>*Go confidently in the direction of your dreams.*<P>Trueheart

Dear PC, <P>This is a classic waffle. Can you block the calls? Can you block the e-mail? It may not make a difference now but that OW does know what she is doing. You H is a pawn easily manipulated by a stranger woman. AS long as he recognizes his choice then you really can't stop him. <P>Yes you love him but you need to protect yourself and your love. The first 4 months after d/d is very hard. Lots of emotions running high on both sides and in many cases a coniving OP out there planning more damage. <P>How to protect yourself? Build your support unit to keep you going no matter where you are. If you stay in plan A, send commuications to your H like OW does. Phone messages and e-mail. NO reason why you can't communicate that way. In time you will be able to send loving notes showing your care. <P>{{{{{hugs to you}}}}}}<P>L. <BR>