I found out in August my H had and affir. It was with someone from work and although emotionally they had developed from September they didn't have sex until end February.<P>The sex was not successful the first 2 times but the 3rd time he managed it (April) then they ended the affair.<P>He has kept in touch via email (she left the company and travelled around the world) some of it quite slutty.<P>He promised me when I found out about the affair that he wouldn't contact her again but he did last week. The day of the terrible crashes he emailed her to see if she was okay.<P>I found the email and immediately asked him to leave. He didn't want to. He said he wanted to stay until we'd been through counselling together.<P>The next day he sent an email to her telling her how it hurt him to do this but that he wanted to commit 100% to the counselling process with me and for her not to contact him again.<P>She rang the next day (he admitted this to me) and as far as he says they are no longer in touch.<P>When I asked him why he had risked it all for the sake of an email he said "he wanted to". When i asked him why he suddenly now " didn't want to" he said he realised I meant it when I wanted him to go and that wasn't what he wanted.<P>He says he wants me and we can be happy but he wonders if he can be happier with someone else.<P>Please help, I don't know what to do with him?