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Help. Need ideas and thoughts on our marriage. We have been seperated for over a year now. With in the last two months we have both seen other people. We made a choice to make this marriage work. we have been following this site and working with the information and knowledge that we can glean from it. The problem is that I did not stop seeing my "other" until two weeks after our "total honesty" period. There is no faith and not alot of hope left. My wife has been hurt badly by my actions. where do you go from here? Any ideas or thoughts would be of great help. We were thinking of doing the seminar. has anyone done this? Thanks for your time and your input.
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I haven't personally been to a seminar, but hear that they are wonderful and very helpful.<P>All I can tell you is to tell your W how sorry you are for the lie, and try to understand her sadness!<P>I hope all works out for you! Just remember to be totally honest with her!<P>Krystal
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I think it would be a great idea if you guys could attend the seminar. No, we have not ever attended one, but I can only imagine how wonderful it would be for your relationship. Just the time alone together and away from life's normal routines. Sounds terrific to me!<P>You are rebuilding your marital foundation. You don't want to be rebuilding on a foundation of lies! Do all you can to make it up to your wife for lying! Apologize for hurting her and every day, tell her how much you love and adore her every day and give her a big long squeeze and passionate kiss each and every day! I can only speak for myself, but that would add units to MY love bank, for sure!
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Thank you for the ideas and thoughts. We are still living apart and For now there is little contact. I understand the principle for adding units to the love bank but what are some ways that it can be done when you are not around each other very much if at all? We have spoken on the phone a little but not very often. At this time we have both felt it important to work on individual problems from our past. It seems that We have brought those issues into this marriage and they have not been resolved. has anyone done this type of thing before? Is it possible to work on yourself and still work together to build a healthy and loving relationship? I would love to hear about other people who have gone through this type of situation. Thanks for you input.<P>
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