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#948819 09/25/01 05:20 PM
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In response to my previous post. I am really at a loss as to what I should do. My H absolutely refuses counseling. He thinks that he should be able to solve his own problems. I need him in my life and can't bear the thought of being without him. If only I could make him see that right now it looks bad, but the future for us still looks bright.

#948820 09/25/01 08:33 PM
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My H also refuses counseling, you should still go for yourself. You can't make him see anything right now concentrate on yourself. Have you considered taking anti-depressants for a while, to help you deal with this? It really does help. Also keep posting there are many great people on here who are willing to listen and help. stay strong. love Sally

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Smokeypooh,<BR>Welcome!<BR>Yes...it is possible to recover and get your relationship to a great place. I posted an old thread with some info on it.<BR>Hang in there.<BR>T <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum31/HTML/004294.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum31/HTML/004294.html</A>

#948822 09/25/01 11:17 PM
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Smokeypooh- <BR>You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink (not my words but have no idea who to attribute them to). You can't force someone into councelling. You have to work on you. Go to individual councelling. Maybe he might join in later, maybe not. This is so early in this mess. I will pray that you can hold eachother and be peaceful soon... and find some peace tonight or another tonight....<P>Breath deeply, sleep well,<BR>Deb<BR>

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smokeypooh I know where you're at. My H went to 2 sessions in the very beginning of our separation and has been refusing to go back ever since. He to has the same philosopy as your H seems to think counseling can't help it's a waste of time. I go every week for myself and slowly I am beginning to get stronger it takes time and I still relapse but I know I have gotten stronger during the course of this ordeal and so will you. There are alot of great people here at MB willing to listen and give you the support that you need. Hang in there. <BR>C


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