Faith1,<BR>I am so pleased for you!<P>I have been following your story since you started posting, and like some others was a little worried as I have not seen you around for a while. Times like this give us BS so much to think about and focus on, hoping its us next.<P>When you have time, and if you know the answer, I would love to know the answer to the one hundred million dollar question:<P>What made him cahnge his mind?, it was only a couple of weeks ago that he asked to separate.<P>Keep plan A'ing, and make that appointment with Steve, I'm sure he will guide you onto that recovery road. Keep us updated.<P>Best wishes, mands

Faith1,<BR>I'm also very happy and encouraged by your post. Proceed with caution. It's what all of us want, the chance to truly work on our marriages. I'm praying that your H is serious about coming back to you (not just in body, but in spirit as well). We'll be here to listen to the good news, and we'll be here for you to pick you up if there's bad news. God Bless!<P>MOM

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR><B>Lil Sis, Faith1, {{{{{FAITH}}}}}, [{[{[{FAITH}]}]}]!!!!<P>WHAT MORE IS THERE TO SAY?!?!?!?!?! It's all been said, you know what you have to do....<P>I'M SO HAPPY I'M CRYING......OUR GOD IS SO GREAT!!!!!!!!!<P>Post on Recovery, Post here, Post on Prayer Requests.....where ever you post as you recover, those who have become "friends" through all this will find you and rejoice with you!<P></B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><BR> <P>Lupo<BR>

Best Wishes to You!<P>Hadn't seen a post from ya in a while and was wondering about your situation. Great news for someone that has worked hard. <P>You are one of the better ones here with support, etc. Thanks!

YOU GO GIRL!!!<P>Time to savor the moment...concentrate on the positive and begin anew!! Don't ask why, at least not today!! Just revel in it all for tonite!! Enjoy each other...talk later!<P>I know youre scared outta your wits and we all understand that...have a great nite!!<P>*Go confidently in the direction of your dreams.*<P>Trueheart

I am so excited for you Faith!! I wish you the best...hang in there through the next few weeks and months. You deserve to be happy....I am so pleased to hear this. Good Luck!!

Hi Faith,<BR>Great news, enjoy your feelings today because its about to get much harder. It happened the same for me, just when I was sure that I was ready to give up, move on, he came back.<P>The things I regret are I was too easy on him, afraid I would ruin it by insisting on some things. I think you really need to go or call with the Harleys for thrapy so when he goes through withdralw he is ready for it and doesnt think he should go back to OW. Somehow they seem to forget the hate they have for OW right now, and want to talk again to her. In fact continued contact is very common so be prepared.<P>But I remember the euphoria of him finally saying those words you have been waiting to hear. Savor the feeling to get you through the tough times of recovery.<BR>lora

Faith,<P>Wow, what news. I am stuck here at work. My OT time of the qtr. I am sooo happy for you. Yes, some WSs might wonder why we get happy. Well we are entitled to some smile time. <P>You certainly are. Enjoy the happy feeling. Then reality of H coming home will settle in and it will be a mixed bag. At least at the beginning. Anxious? yes. Anxiety? Double yes. Need reassurance and rebuilding the trust factor? Oh yea.......<P>That is ahead for you. Right direction....moving forward. I am very happy for you. I will tell H. Maybe next time he sees you on ICQ he might smile and say hi??@?@?@@?<P>Take care and {{{{{{{{{{big hugs}}}}}}}}}<P>L.

Faith1 I am so happy for you. Your faith has gotten you this far and you have been here to support so many of us. All the best to you. Just take it slow one day at a time. Remember as sadnlonely stated it's not the same man moving back home. Continue to plan A. Good luck Faith1. <BR>C

Wow. Thanks everyone for your wonderful words of advice and encouragement. We're home now after a nice evening out - dinner and a funny movie. I must say, that this is definitely an awkward experience. Whew... we are both worn out I think from an emotional day. He's snoozing on the couch... probably comfortable in his house with me. <P>What a range of feelings I have. It occurred to me on the way home, after our "date", that I'm not sure I want him right now. ugh I''ve seen this before in some of the stories here. I was ready to move on. ya know? I know this is something I'll have to work through... any advice?<P>He's not feeling well... he's very concerned his cancer may be causing some problems again. Could be another factor that brought him home. He's going to check with the Dr. tomorrow. hopefully. I can't deal with withdrawal and sickness and worry. (wounded bear???) sigh.... <P>I've told him about this place, but we have much more to talk about and agree upon. He is very willing to talk to Steve. whew. gonna get right on that tomorrow.<P>I'm learning a whole new Plan A, everyone. I'm trying to relax and enjoy this.... I really am, but I'm so scared of the lies.... scared of contact with OW. He truly seems sincere and enthusiastic about re-building , but I'm being cautious.... perhaps too cautious. I've got to relax a little.<P>Hopefully my internet will be back up at work on Thursday so I check in. Someone wonderful was kind enough to e-mail me your replies on Wednesday throughout the day so I could keep in touch with you all... my lifeline.<P>I'll be on for a few minutes tonite... if anyone's around.<P>Hubby is sleeping like a baby.. right here next to me on the couch. <P>I guess I'll need to switch to the recovery board soon, huh? But you all are my friends here... I suppose I can use both. I can't bear the thought of leaving GQII.

Hi Faith,<P>No one is asking you to leave GqII. Z and STL post here along with Topie and many others. So take it easy, enjoy the attention and being pampered. <P>OW? Might be a threat. Let your H handle that. You need to adapt to having him back. Never realized how much we learned to be without them doncha think?<P>L.

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Faith1:<BR><B>Wow...What a range of feelings I have. It occurred to me on the way home, after our "date", that I'm not sure I want him right now. ugh I''ve seen this before in some of the stories here. I was ready to move on. ya know? I know this is something I'll have to work through... any advice?</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P> Ahhhh Faith1, got what you wanted but don't want whatcha got???????????????? (CLASSIC!) But I think it will pass. Keep counting your blessings and you can't go wrong. I think the key is to be grateful in everything. What is meant to be will be. God is in control. <P>

I'm not worried, Faith. You can channel your "readiness to move on" towards tough love. You can finally stand up for yourself and not accept the things you used to allow. Someone who is not ready to move on can't do that, because they are so afraid of losing their spouse. Like me.<P>But I'm sure he's not a bundle of joy right now, and regardless of his motives, he is home. Take advantage of it, and have a great time. Go to the local High School football games, bring a blanket and a thermos of hot chocolate, and live the life The weather is so crisp and clear lately, that romance will spark up again. Or not, but that's ok. At least you guys are making the effort, and whether or not it works out, you will know you both gave it all you got.<P>Just make sure and be honest with yourself and give it all youo got