I just got laid off of a job I have had for 15 years. I asked my WS to please give me hug... OMG, you would think I had asked him to castrate himself. <P>I've had it. Find a new job, new man, new life. I don't need this.<P>Sorry.<BR>

Wow---when it rains it pours...you have a lot to handle. Do you have supportive family and friends? Is there any hope for you and WS?<P>I reach out to you with prayers and concern. The stress of all these major changes can be so upsetting. Are you still living with WS? Will you get any help from your former job in searching out a new job?<P>You really need a hug. Sorry your WS is too stupid to know how to care.<BR> ((((((((eyeswideopen))))))))))<P>TW<P>------------------<BR>Psalm 23

eyeswideopen I'm sorry to hear that you were laid off. That really bites. What are your plans? You should be eligible for unemployment benefits. I know you don't need this now. Sorry I have no great advice to offer just wanted to let you know i'm thinking of you. <BR>You are in my prayers. Here's a BIG HUG!!

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toosedwave, cybil and sing... thank you for your responses. Your hugs mean more than I can ever say. How sad though that my H is such a jerk. I have no idea what I'm going to do..I talked to my supervisor tonight and he assured me he will give me a great recommendation. Anyone out there need a great former HR/admin person who 2 years ago made a transission to systems administrator in Unix and NT environments? And can cook a mean beef enchilada? And get three kids to school every morning and make sure that their homework is done each night? And type 100 words a minute? There must be a place for me out there somewhere. Got the resume together and am sending it off to other friends for pumping up, then I will send it out to my syndicate (I wish). I always seem to land on my feet. Things WILL be ok. Thanks again for the hugs you guys.

bummer ewo, hugs don't committ you to anything for crying out loud, I have never turned my wife down, even though some were pretty strained. The man has issues.....btw, might make you happy to know just before reading this, I knew thinker was feeling irritable, was written all over her face (not necessarily with me)....so I gave her a spontaneous hug, seemed to make her feel much better.... for a few minutes anyways, and didn't have to mean all is well, just that I do care about her, that is what hugs are for....right? So anyways (((ewo))) hope you find that better job, that is always the way it worked out for me too.

Lordy SNL, never thought I would say this but<BR>(((((((SNL))))))). <P>Thanks.<P>What the heck is he thinking?

Oh! And a spontaneous hug to thinker?? Uh-oh here we go again<BR>(((((SNL)))))) <P>The world is turning upside down, isn't it? <P>It's so sad that I can actually feel these cyber hugs and don't have any physical hugs. Hope you can feel the ones directed to you and to thinker...<P>Deb

I'm pretty new to this forum........but wanted to give you some moral support. ((((((((( eyeswideopen )))))))) They say that God doesnt shut one door without allowing another one to open...or something like that.. anyway... After the shock of it is over... then I suppose you have to start fresh and pick yourself up and move forward. Sorry, I tend to be a polyana and look at the best of situations.<P>I truly hope this turns out best for you. Good luck! <P>------------------<BR>..climbing the rainbow..

confusedmom- I too am somewhat of a pollyanna. It will all work out...things will be fine. You should have heard me talking to my parents and in-laws tonight. I was the epitomy of updome. (is that a word) Anyway, I'm not so upset about loosing my job, though I am still shaking, it;s the fact that WH wouldn't even give me a friggin hug...nada...nuthin. He says, It's just a job.<P>A job I have had for 15 years. A job that has all of our retirement involved. A job that carries all of the health insurance, life insurance, dental insurance.... <P>oh, right, it's just a job....<BR>phhhhhfffffffft.

<BR>Oh EWO a big (((((((((((((HUG)))))))))))))))) to you. I am feeling the same devastation...my H was furloughed on Monday from the airlines. <P>He also carries all the insurance, etc.....not to mention and actual pay check. The money I get for teaching is so small...it won't even pay our house payment much less anything else. <P>I called him when I found out on Monday...he wasn't worried or upset. I think because he won't have to pay as much child support---not having a job. <P>Anyway...I am so sorry this happened to you. When it rains, it pours. I wish you the best. Pat

Dear Ewo,<P>{{{{hugs to you}}}} I am sorry to hear of your trials. But I think you will emerge stronger for this and be a better person. You and your family will benefit. Now if your H can see his way out of the fog, he will benefit also.<P>I hear of your type of work periodically. I will try to keep an ear open. Have you tried hotjobs.com? <P>Take Care,<BR>L.

WOMAN! With your qualifications, you will have NO problem finding your next job. Fifteen years is a lot invested, but God is your provider, not your job and He will provide, with or without a job, and with or without a man. THIS I KNOW FOR SURE!<P>{{{{{{{{10 SQUEEZES}}}}}}}}}<P>Just think, you can take a break from the rat race for a while, regroup and think about what you REALLY want to do with your life! Something tells me it's good timing and you need this break. I think it might do you some good... (?) How long is up to you because once you send in that resume, you are going to have tons of interviews lined up!!! Keep us posted!

<B>eyeswideopen</B>, I’m so sorry to hear that. Here is my cyber hug for {{{{{{{{{{{EWO}}}}}}}}}}}. I hope you feel better today. You are a strong woman and I don’t think you would have a problem finding a new job with your experiences. Please be strong and don’t give up hope yet. The sun will shine on you and your family someday. Maybe I should take the I395 south bound exit to lend my support, huh!<P>OOOO<P><p>[This message has been edited by OffOnOnOff (edited September 28, 2001).]

Deb - as you can see, you have a lot of support here. Please avail your self of it, at least emotionally. A few of us are close, as you know. Lean on us, OK?<P>Dave

Deb - I think you made a good move switching from HR a couple years ago. There's a big demand for Unix and NT sysadmins. You also have the record of success in HR. You might not make the same wage or benefits right away, but that can be made up within a few years at many companies.<P>Your husband, though, is being a true jerk. Sorry to be so judgemental. Fifteen years is a long time. I can't imagine not trying to comfort my wife after something like this, even though she is a WS.<P>I'm sorry this happened.<P>- Tom

I haven't cried all day until I just read all these responses. You guys are the greatest. I'm starting to feel pumped up already. WAT - thanks for the email. I'll be in touch.<P>(((((everyoneatMB))))))<BR>

I'm sorry you have lost your job. I too, am jobless as of last week. Our startup company ran into difficulty like many other companies have the last several months, so the whole thing is gone.<P>It is a big pain in the butt, especially added on top of everything else.<P>With your skills, you'll find another job. I'm sure you know this, but email and/or call everyone you can think of that doesn't know what happened, because it seems that in this market of late, word of mouth is how you'll find your next job. This is what I'm doing, and leads are popping up. Even if someone is in a totally different field, they might know someone that has a requirement.<P>My thoughts are with you, and I know exactly how you feel. You can get through it.

oops, I did it again. I composed quite the post and where did it go? Hit the wrong button. Anyway, thanks Rick37. Maybe we should exchange resumes and see who we know, huh? It's usually who you know, not what you know anyway. I've been in contact with many ex-coworkers who are trying to help out and offering to be references. I'm not too worried (yeah right, that's me trying to be strong) if I could just stop feeling so nauseated, I'd be fine. Things could be so much worse. Got to keep remembering that....

eyeswide,<BR>You know what? Something just dawned on me? Sometimes when I "lose" my posts, I hit the BACK button and they reappear... Try that next time and let me know what happens??? I don't see why that wouldn't work for you?