Things are going better now. We are communicating quite a bit. Taking things slow. We had a nice nite last night. Took a long walk together, hubby unpacked his things and got settled in. He took Surviving An Affair with him today. He is smiling, and talking very positive about us. Hugging me and telling me he loves me a lot. We're going to Houston to visit his family this weekend. It will be good to get away from here (and the OW) for 3 days, and to spend some time together in the car (NO LB'S.... ) and to see his family. As you know, I have kept in touch with his Mom and sister throughout this, when he hardly talked to them at all. THey are so relieved that he is doing the right thing now. THey love me so much, and support us in this rebuilding endeavor. <P>I am cautiously beginning to relax and trust him. He constantly reassures me by calling me, and opening up to me. He can't believe what a mess he's made of things, and is taking responsibility for some very bad choices. He's taking responsibility for his part in the marriage before the affair, has seen my growth and changes, and he believes we can both learn and grow and have a better marriage.<P>OW was terribly hurt and angry when he left her Wednesday. She said some horrible, mean hateful things to him. hehe. He saw her true colors. He was glad to see her true colors, and knew he was doing the right thing. But then she left him a message to apologize for her reactions... . sigh... This weekend will be good for us.. whew... I've told him about MB, and the support, healing and growth I have received. He thinks it sounds wonderful. He's thankful I found it, and thankful I didn't give up on him. <P>OK, well, go ahead and give me all kinds of warnings, advice, hugs, and kicks in the behind.... I know the fog can return. I'm scared to death. BUt he is certainly saying and doing a lot of right things. Especially if he will read SAA, and get on the phone with me to Steve or Jennifer, and write a no-contact letter. I'm going to ask that he give me voice-mail passwords, and share all his cell phone activity with me. We've sortof agreed on this already - just sorta - I didn't push yet. I'm trying to be very careful with the way we communicate - watching my selfish demands and judgements. <P>

Faith, I think you already know it all. You read here enough so I won't bog you down with all the "be prepared" stuff.<P>For now, just enjoy it. This is referred to as "honeymoon" time. I hear it diminishes a bit over time as you recover more, the anger comes out, etc. Enjoy it for now, you deserve it.<P>I never had honeymoon time... I feel jipped. <P>I am SO happy for you, you don't know. I just keep praying OW will not sink her claws into your WH again, and that he will be strong enough to continue on this path for recovery.<P>HbH

Hi F1, I'm praying for you and I'm smiling at your recent victories. <P>It's beautiful to see your posts. Have a wonderful weekend and enjoy the feeling.

Enjoy yourself this weekend D,<P> I am very happy for you girl...you deserve this. <P> jd

Faith1,<P>What more is there to say? YOU KNOW how happy I am!!!!<P>I just CRY every time I read about your beginnings of restoration.....<P>Just Praise God, that's all I can say!!!!!<P>Lupo

I'm really happy for you. Keep coming to vent your frustrations and successes. I am reading "'Surviving an Affair" and asked H if he would read it with me and he also agreed. That's progress!! Have a great weekend.<P>Mikkey

Its good to hear your wonderful news...<BR>I would say be cautious and all those things, I think you know this already, but like everyone else, enjoy this time!<BR>It sounds like you are well on your way to recieving all the things that God has promised you. <P>I'm going to post an update too Faith and I would love to hear from you on some stuff, so look for me if you don't mind.<BR>

Hi Faith1 I am so very happy for you a bit envious too I must admit. I hope you have a great weekend with your H and his family. I will be anxiously awaiting your next post.<BR>Good luck!<BR>C

I'm sooo happy for you and like Cybil am also a bit envious. Have a GREAT weekend and keep us all posted. Good luck!!

Just enjoy yourself! Enjoy being with your H and your marriage...<P>Don't anticipate or expect....<P>Appreciate and enjoy!!!<P>Prayers...<P>Cali

I am so happy for you! Enjoy your time with H and family. I truly hope this is the beginning of your recovery!! Have a great weekend!<P>------------------<BR>always-faith4us

Hi Faith,<P>So I guess, I'll have to find another ICQ partner?!?!? he he he!!!!! <P>I am happy for you. Sounds like he is working on meeting your needs. You know that withdrawal can hit any time. So be prepared. <P>I am very happy for you. Smiling from ear to ear. (big grin!!!)<P>Have a nice trip. <P>L.

Hi Faith1,<BR>That is awesome that your husband is willing to go with you to visit his family whom he has been avoiding throughout this ordeal (FOG). That has got to be a good sign!<P>I think you have learned the hard way that we can only trust in God. Period. So I think you are right to be cautious about giving another person ALL of your trust... It's good that he is taking necessary steps to regain your trust, but he needs to prove himself over the next few YEARS, baby! <P>AND, he needs to prove that he can deal with your painful bouts as they come and go. I hope he is up for that challenge as I don't think it's fair it you have to stuff your feelings. Sure, God is here to listen to our concerns, but I think our husbands should be able to listen also--NOT that they can solve all our problems, that's what God is for, but they are supposed to honor us as the weaker vessel, right? Meaning we're delicate and can't take too much heat! <P>I'm so glad that your H is open to this site, the forum, AND Harley's books! That is so great! You guys might even be able to avoid spending a fortune on counseling--that is, after you make your phone call(s) to Steve or Jennifer!

Hope this helps you too. Regarding Phone cards and online records - I have been married for 30 years and am only 53. My husband is 58 and this year I have gone through all that you all have gone through. I only hope his and her calls have stopped, I believe they no longer see each other. They met on the internet playing Yahoo Euchre and had a real scam with me going for a year. I've lived a nightmare and gone to counseling. Anyway, in this forum several months ago I found that there is a phone card that can be traced and can be purchased at <A HREF="http://bigzoo.com/main.asp" TARGET=_blank>http://bigzoo.com/main.asp</A> <BR>You can always plant them where they can be picked up around the house. I also use a device at home that I purchased from Radio Shack along with a tape recorder that picks up all activity on the line. I take one day at a time. Hopefully there won't be another contact, cause it will be his last, and my children have vowed no more either.<BR>