Well,it has been may since my wife and I last made love,A week or so before she left.How do we handle this?What are the right things to do here?I certainly will not seek out another woman to fufill my needs.

Hi owen. Wow I really don't know what to say about that I'm hopeing that someone with more experience with this issue will reply to you. For my H and I (separated now 6 mos.) we are or were still having a sexual relationship he swears to me that there is no OW and the more I read about MLC I truly believe that's what my H is going through. He's here almost every night to see the kids or calls and is here most of the weekend. He never spends the night though. Our love making has been better than ever but I am always emotional afterwards. I just can't explain my feelings and then he always feels bad because I'm emotional and says we can't continue to do this. In my head I think it would be best for us not to have sex but my heart and hormones tell me otherwise. I hope someone here has some advice for you. Hang in there.<BR>C

Hi Owen-<BR>I has been since May for me too. So sorry, I know how awful it is. Now we are at such an uncomfortable place... afraid to touch for fear of rejection on both of our parts (or he just despises me, who knows). I'm so sorry. I was laid off my job yesterday and I still couldn't get even a hug. I hope that next year at this time, you and I are both loving life, I have a great job, and this weird sexless lifestyle is just a mere memory. (((((owen))))

Hi Owen,<P>Well for me it has been 15 months of no sex. At first it was a relief, because sexual problems was one of our main issues. He had a high sex drive and I had none. Now, it is like a switch has been flipped on inside me. I truly desire sex!! I, like you will not go to another person to fulfill my needs. I am still married and even though he has broken our marriage vows by being with someone else, I will not do that. <P>I just started another thread on why would my WS want to have sex with me and his girlfriend. I am not sure why, but Bramblerose on the thread kind of put it in perspective for me. My H and I are now working on the sexual side of our relationship. No expectations on either part except to fulfull each other's sexual needs. Yes, he is still seeing other woman and I am hoping that me fulfilling is needs will help that issue to fade away. She has LB'ed alot and he seems to be slowly, ever SO SLOWLY turning back to me. I am not getting my hopes up, but you never know how things will turn out. Yes, it is hard to go so long without sex, but I am now glad that I did, because it has shown me how important it really is in a relationship. Before it was always just another chore that I had to do, now I understand the EN it fulfills in my H's life. <p>[This message has been edited by Rdhead10 (edited September 29, 2001).]

billbailey had an interesting solution to this question, somewhere on the boards!!!