Thank you to all who replied to my last post about the tatoo. My H decided to shut off the phone line hooked up to our computer, so I could not get on line yesterday to read my replies,had to hook up to my reg. phone line. He has been going and checking my posts on here and I guess he got angry when he read some of them oh well, Also said that he was checking how long I stay on line and says I have been using the computer more than the kids and he is not paying for aol anymore because he is not here so I should pay. he also decided to shut off some of the cable channels, things are getting nasty, he makes quite a lot more money than me,and he left so he has to keep paying the bills. He is angry that I opened my own checking account and my pay goes into my acct. and not our joint acct. he has been spending to much money having an A, and his cell phone bill is unbelievable from talking to OW, so I need to protect myself and keep my pay so I know where it is and pay what bills I can, this situation I am in is so confusing thats why I need to talk to a lawyer and see where I stand in case he stops paying bills. Anyway I got another part-time job so I have been on the go. Hope everything is well with all of you,. I miss talking to you guys. Well don't know what is going to happen next, I am sure he will throw something at me regarding our finances I am preparing myself. Thanks everyone Sally

I am very glad to hear that you are taking steps to protect yourself. That is vitally important.<P>Someone on here once posted about how if life knocks you down 5 times, make sure you get up 6 times. It sounds to me like that is what you're doing.<P>Remember to continue to be the better person, and do not do things to your H in spite. It sounds to me like that is what he is doing to you. Don't sink to his level. You're better than that hon. <P>Karen<BR>

Sally, <P>I am sorry things are getting nasty! He is trying to get you to LB big time, so he can justify his actions---Don't give him the satisfaction! Hang in there---I am saying prayers for you and family!!<P>Krystal

Hi Sally I'm sorry to hear that your H is acting so nasty. I'm sure in his mind he thinks that he is entitled to do this. You just hang in there because you are making positive decisions for you and your family. We are all here to support you. <BR><<<<HUGS>>>><BR>C

Hi Sally,<P>I'm glad you're able to get online! That sounds like a great idea to get an attorney and start protecting yourself. Take care

Hi karen,I think H is doing these things for spite, I will continue doing these things for myself, thank you for your support. Hi krystal, yes he is trying to make me Lb, but I am not going to , I am going to be strong, even though I feel like falling apart. Thank you. Hi cybil, thanks for the hug, and support, I am trying to make he right decisions. I wish the whole nightmare would go away. hope everything is good with you. Love sally

Yeah, I need to see what he will be responsible to pay and how much child support I am entitled to, also I am entitled to spousal support and being that we are M 18 years I am going to get half of his pension from the police dept. I am going to make sure if this goes to D that i am going to get everything that I deserve. Thanks Dana114 for your support

Yeah, I need to see what he will be responsible to pay and how much child support I am entitled to, also I am entitled to spousal support and being that we are M 18 years I am going to get half of his pension from the police dept. I am going to make sure if this goes to D that i am going to get everything that I deserve. Thanks Dana114 for your support

I am always sad to read when people get nasty and seem to do things out of spite...<P>Keep your chin up...and do take the necessary steps to protect yourself...<P>Take care of yourself and children and don't let him get the best of you.<P>Cali<P>------------------<BR><I>Live Impeccably In Your Word.<BR>Don't Take Anything Personally.<BR>Make No Assumptions.<BR>Do Your Best Always. </I>

Sally, <BR>Chin's up.. he's being childish. You'll be fine when it's all finally over.<P>Just a note re the extra part-time job... I could be wrong, but now might not be the best time to take on another job as they might figure that into the possible support figures.<BR>I know that when my friend was going thru divorce they told him to work NO overtime even. Pay the bills the best you can, but it might be better to show the court that you can't do it without more money than to show that you can work another job.<P>JMHO <P>

Thanks Cali, doing the best I can considering everything, I will certainly try not to let him get the best of me. Thanks for the encouragement. love Sally

Thanks JMHO, I was thinking the same thing about the other part time job I will be speaking to my lawyer about this, very good point to bring up, thank you.I am trying to keep my chin up. but I never wanted this to happen, I wish he would get some help and maybe together this could have worked out, I am feeling very lonely and sad today. I am missing him, the weather here in the northeast is chilly and rainy so I guess that is bringing me down. love Sally

Faith in him<BR>I never could understand why the WS would leave and then when BS is hurt beyond compair the WS would realy get nasty. You explained it and I thank you. They have to be MAD at the BS in order to be RIGHT. If the WS weren't mad at the BS, it would make it hard to leave. Thus the barage of zingers, one right after another so the BS will get Mad and inraged. <BR>This is so key.<P>------------------<BR>Marry