Most of you know that I told my H that I let him go, and that I did not want him here just existing......I set my boundaries, and WH has to live by them.....<P>I told him this on Friday. Did NOT talk to him Sat. H called looking for us (kids and myself). 5 phone calls---he assumed that I didn't want to talk to him---I was at my parents house.<P>H finally called there Sun morning----He decided to come to town to see kids soccer games. (H lives 120 miles away---used to come home every weekend, until I said no more.) He arrived at soccer games, and then to our house with kids.<P>H was very quiet. I talked to him, asking why he was here--I asked if he understood my talk to him on Friday. Yes, he understands---He informed me that he wasn't talking to OW at all. He was reading SAA. He was trying to get me "back into his head".......where OW has been for awhile now. <P>He said he felt lonely, and wanted to be loved. I told him that he is loved, if he would just let us love him. He acknowledged the hurt he has put me, and kids through. He was very nice----just wanted to hold me. What do I think? I am trying not to be hopeful or pushy! Anyone have any advice? opinions?<P>I asked H to take kids to his town this next weekend---H agreed. I will probably pick them up on Sunday---Help....<P>Thanks, Krystal

Faith and Him:<BR>Keep your expectations low...let him do all the talking and let him prove his talk with actions...<P>You don't have to be harsh...but you have set your boundaries and it is important to keep to them.<P>I admire your strength.<P>Cali<P>------------------<BR><I>Live Impeccably In Your Word.<BR>Don't Take Anything Personally.<BR>Make No Assumptions.<BR>Do Your Best Always. </I>

Anyone else??? Did I go back on my boundaries by letting H be here??? <P>Help....................

I think what you are doing is OK...already there are signs of him responding in a very positive way. The fact he is reading SAA and said he wanted to be loved is good....I think he may be coming around some what....your response to his statement that he was lonely and wanted to be loved was PERFECT!! Take Cali's advice....let him prove his intentions with actions....hold your ground...you are doing GREAT!<BR>Lots of hugs<BR>Dianne<P>------------------<BR>always-faith4us