Don't apologize for posting too much, that is what this place is for...Post as much as you want or need to. Participate in other threads also. The one thing that keeps people coming back to give you advice is when you acknowledge them when they post to you, lets them know that they have been heard, and that they aren't just typing into the wind...
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<P>Have you sat down and thought about what you want. Do you want your marriage? What is your plan? What do you want in life? Is it marriage? Before you knew about the A did you feel like you loved your H and did you want to spend the rest of your life with him? Think about these things. Either way look at what you have invested in your marriage, and maybe you should give it a chance and see if you can save your marriage.<P>What kept me going is I kept thinking about our vows...I know She broke them 4 times over, but I still made the promise to keep them, I don't remember a clause in there that said that we could break the vows if our spouce already did. The line "through good times and bad" is the line that keeps me here, I promised to live my life with my W and this would be considered probably the worst bad time I could have immagined. Just my thoughts. <P>If you look into Plan A and Plan B, you will see they recomend in plan A to give it a time line or until you feel like it is destroying you. Usually the time giving for plan A is 6 months before you start a plan B. So promise your self you will commit 6 months and work on your marriage before you make any decisions on the rest of your life. You don't decide to get married in a week, so don't decide to end your marriage without giving it some time....Just a thought. It is much harder working on your marriage when you are seperated.<P>Good luck.