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Joined: Sep 2001
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i have posted before and here is my story short version.h had affair w/ ow they work together affair has been going on for about 1 yr.he moved in with her shortly after he left me and our 6 yr old daughter he lived at her place for about 8months.we talked about working things out and he needed a way to move out.husband returned after world trade ctr attack he is now living w me and our child (daughter is extremely happy for him to be home) he told ow he is staying at his aunts house.(she believes him and i are divorcing)i know they are still messing around.even though he denies it.says him and i are to work at being friends and will take it from there.i can't let him have his cake and eat it to.also don't want to kick him out our daughter will be devastated (not fair for her to she him keep coming and going)but not fair for me to deal with nonsense either.we have a family trip planned for nov.17 i planned on plan a'ing until then and if things don't get better than bye bye birdie. is that a good idea i mean i love him to death but can't let things go on this way he needs to either be with me or her not both and he can't keep tell both of us different stories.he claims he doesn't want to hurt her especially since they work together but what about me and our child? i am trying to be nice just to make it easier for him to make a decision. (which is very hard for me) any advice???pls post i really would like some advice
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Joined: Jul 1999
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The Harley's states suggest's to Plan A for about 6 months i believe and if WS still continues affair or is still in contact, or not working on marriage then a Plan B should be implemented to protect yourself.
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Yeah, Harley says that Plan A (no lovebusting), will make you feel like you are just pushing your spouse into the OPs arms, but like T24G said, there IS a time limit because what you are shooting for is Hs agreement to break all contact with OP.<P>At least your H is at home so you CAN work your Plan A effectively. {{{{{HUGS}}}}}<P>I think you need to focus on the long term results that you are working (Plan A) for, and try not to focus on his day to day behavior (lies) and inconsideration. {{{{{MORE HUGS}}}}}
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