well.....i have looked and looked through this place and have found everyone has this much better sex life and yet i have NONE????<P>Anyone have any suggestoins??? since the A, sex between us stinks....i believe it is on my part mostly. He just doenst (gosh this is crude) do anything for me.<P> <BR>help??<BR>mercy

That sounds like a symptom of an underlying problem. We women need emotional attachment as foreplay. We can't just "go at it" without emotions. are you two in counseling? Is he meeting your needs? There is nothing wrong with "putting out" occasionally without wanting to but don't let it be a way of life. Are you being Radically Honest with him about your feelings? It sounds like more healing needs to take place.

Women are different machines than we men. That much is certain. I can enjoy sex, even when I am not "in the mood". Our plumbing is just different, I guess. But the pleasure that women derive from sex seems to rely much more heavily on an emotional level, and when things just "aren't right", enjoyable sex can be a very difficult thing to achieve.<P>When you look at your husband, do you see a sexy man?<BR>When he touches your skin softly, does it excite you or annoy you?<P>Ask yourself questions like these, and when things happen like that, focus on your love for him, and what he means to you. Put aside all the negativity that infidelity brings and try to focus on why you really love that person. Easier said than done, but it's the only thing that seems to work.<P>I can tell my wife doesn't enjoy sex as much as she used to. I can do my part, and make it as enjoyable as possible, but if she doesn't find me desireable, then she has ruined sex between us for good, by having her affair. As helpless as that may seem, it is the truth.