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#950880 11/07/01 08:02 PM
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Bump.<p>Looking for you Orchid, Redhat, and Faith.<p>Indy

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Hi, Indy!
ummm Indianapolis.... hehe full name? [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]
sorry.. bad joke. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>anyway... when is the last time she called you by your full name? And was it an endearing name for you... like only she and your family call you that, so it's special right?<p>hmmmmm, well, depending on your answers... she may be trying to be formal with you... or jsut get your attention.... but I don't think you need to do or say anything about it.<p>what do you think?<p>Faith1

#950882 11/07/01 09:30 PM
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Faith,<p>When is the last time she called you by your full name?<p>The last time she did that was when she called to office and I wouldn't talk to her. I think you saw that post. If not it is on this one.<p>Was it an endearing name for you... like only she and your family call you that, so it's special right?<p>Yes, it is my family name. My parents, her parents, my sisters and their husbands only call me that. She always called me Indianapolis. She has called me Indy since before we started dating.<p>Well, depending on your answers... she may be trying to be formal with you... or just get your attention.... but I don't think you need to do or say anything about it. What do you think?<p>I don't know what to think. She has been leaving messages at my parents house like you know. She has called me Indy Jr. My dad and I have the same name. I won't say anything about it. It just messes me up alittle. Now, I will ask you. With my answers. What do you think.<p>Indy<p>P.S.
Did you see my post to Lupo? She hasn't answered it. If you see her please ask her to at least look at it.

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Hiya Indy,<p>O Checkin' in here...... Hm.... another twist? Well, if it was me (the devious venusian - Kevco's new name for me - he he he), I would try as much as I could to get under your skin in such a way that I also had a quick exit to pretend like I really don't want to get your attention and then prove that you are just too jumpy thereby supporting my real foglike theory that you are not worthy of the Ws. Confused yet? You should be, devious venusians work very hard at confusing their man....... we can do that even when we are happily married to them...... hm... <p>So she called you by your full name to your family. ok. Now let it slide. Keep it in the back of your mind and play it cool. The calm collected new cool Indy. Like the aftershave feeling of cool, it will drive the girl wild.... <p>ok. done my job. now can you do yours?<p>L.

#950884 11/07/01 09:40 PM
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Orchid,<p> I was wondering if you were around tonight. I think that maybe you are right. She might also have just let it slip out of habit. I don't know. I am not going to look at her and say. Hey thanks for calling me Indianapolis. Even though it felt good to hear her say it again. I just kind of through me off center alittle. How do you think that I should respond to her message? She works tonight so I will be able to just leave her a message at work.<p>Indy

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Indy,
Ditto Orchid. I really think that's what it is. She's trying to shake your tree. Hold on tight and let her get tired of shaking! [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Yep, i saw your post to Lupo. I think it was very good. I'm sure she'll see it. Watch it and if it drops down to the bottom of page 1, bump it back up for her. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Faith1<p>[ November 07, 2001: Message edited by: Faith1 ]</p>

#950886 11/07/01 10:08 PM
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Orchid and Faith,<p> How do you think I should handle Saturday?<p>Indy

#950887 11/07/01 10:36 PM
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Indy,
I'm sorry. I'm not sure what you're asking. I think you said you would respond to her message, via message at her work? about her picking up the kids, right? You and her really ought to come up with a regular schedule, if at all possible. <p>Sorry, I missed your question somehow. <p> [img]images/icons/rolleyes.gif" border="0[/img] <p>I'm here for a little bit tonite. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Faith1

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Hi, <p>Let her figure it out. You can make arrangements with someone for her to pick up the kids. Then leave a message (no direct contact). <p>You are going to the Ball right? <p>Sorry to be delayed. I am dealing with a new situation right now. I will post and ask for input. Indy, your support for me right now will be helpful. It might even be fun!!!<p>L.

#950889 11/07/01 10:42 PM
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Faith,<p> She wanted me to call her about where to pick up the kids. Of course she said that she would be there between 10 - 10:30 am. If I am not mistaken. Don't I control that. She doesn't tell me when she is going to see the kids. Also, one more question. Should I ask for more support? She is very behind. Besides the money would help me and the kids.<p>Indy

#950890 11/07/01 10:59 PM
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Orchid,<p>You are going to the Ball right?<p> Yes, it is required that I make an appearance. I was thinking about being there in my dress uniform when she drops them off. She always loved to see me in that uniform. Ask Faith what I look like in it. I sent her a pic of me and the family awhile back.<p> I am interested to hear your situation. I like to help people. You all have helped me. I will do what I can.<p>Indy<p>[ November 07, 2001: Message edited by: INDY_357 ]<p>[ November 07, 2001: Message edited by: INDY_357 ]<p>[ November 07, 2001: Message edited by: INDY_357 ]<p>[ November 07, 2001: Message edited by: INDY_357 ]</p>

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yes! let her see you in your uniform. and a smile on your face. k? but don't be clingy, and don't talk to her long. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

#950892 11/07/01 11:42 PM
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Orchid,<p> I am just going to call and leave a message at work stating that I got her message. Let her squrm for awhile. I am leaving my office and will check your reply at home.<p>Indy

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Orchid and Faith,<p> I just got home from work. I called out to her work and she had already left for the evening. I then called the OM's house. Guess who answered the phone. Well, if you didn't get it. It was the OM. I kept my cool and asked for her. He said that she wasn't there right now. (I don't know if that is true or not, but atleast she wasn't). I told him to tell her that her husband called and that I got her message. He is like thats the only message that you have. Like he was expecting more. What do you think of that?<p>Indy

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INDY_357,<p>How is you Ball ?. Did WW see you at your best ?. [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] No contact, right ?.<p>I missed your posts ... WW "go to class", I found out that OM left message on W's cell (I know the passwd [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] ) ... WW has a gig tonite playing in the same jazz band ... and of course she will not be home tonite too. She is playing hookie ... I don't know how I did it, w/ my tummy up-side down I gave W kiss good by and brought 2D to skating practice.<p>About visitation right/time, it is agree upon time. You could make if fix schedule. If you are hurting on $, just go by the book. If she is late (aka deadbeat) she could lost her right. As long as you go by the book and rational, it is not LB. You might want to explore it. Not for you but to for the little one to have fun ... Monster, Inc [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] ... Orchid or faith might have more info than I do.<p>For now I need sleeping pills and tuck my 2 D to bed.

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Indy,<p>I must be going blind. I thought I saw your address out there and now it is gone. I have been rearranging my son's room (new piece of furniture. Now all the toys are on one big shelf!!!! yea <p>Here's my address: lhmkem@yahoo.com<p>Thanks for your support. <p>L.

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Orchid,<p> It was I removed it. I will send you a message. Did you get to read my last post. I had to call the OM's house. Tell me what you think.<p>Indy

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Hi,<p>I think the OM is a jerk. Other than that, I think you did fine. The less you talk with stupid people the less chances you have of talking stupid. [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Guess I have to take my own advice!!! LOL!! [img]images/icons/shocked.gif" border="0[/img]
OK, see how you've helped me? <p>L.

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Orchid,<p> I an glad that I could help. The OM according to my wife wants to talk to me. What did you think about me telling me that I was her husband? I also sent you an email.<p>Indy

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Orchid,<p> I am going to turn in for the night. I will hear from you tomorrow.<p>Indy

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