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Okay, I have been noticing that a LOT of relationships here have been about the same as mine (17 years) and we all know what else we have in common!!!<BR>So I would like to take a poll on how long your total relationship was...from dating through marriage. Another common number is 10 years....<P>Anyone like to respond?<P>I intend to collate this! <P>Thanks,<P>Jacky<p>[ October 13, 2001: Message edited by: Nina too ]

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Hi Nina- 17 years together here too- married for almost 15 yrs when he had the A and wanted a divorce. fortunately he changed his mind. I had NO IDEA he was so unhappy in our marriage- he is not one to share his emotions very often.I do think this seems to be a common length of marriage when these things happen- I wish I had known that BEFORE his A! I figured we'd been together so long that we'd always be together- but apparently he'd been storing up anger and resentments for quite awhile that contributed to his wanting a D and his having the A. lifeismessy

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23 years. Married 20, dating/engaged 3.<P>Jeffers

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together 11 years<BR>married 7<BR>D-day May 29, 2001<BR>WS H is home for the second time since D-day, but wanting to move out again.

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Married:26 years-2 days ago.<P>D-day: Feb.22/01<P>Ages married: 18(me) 20(him)<P>WH has been living with OW since d-day. Has recently started to talk about coming home.

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together 11 years<BR>married 10 years

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22 years<BR>16 married<P>~Jo

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Together 11 years<BR>Married 10<BR>1st D-day, a month before 3rd Anniversary<BR>Last-32nd D-day, 2001 January.......hooo, unbelievable....<BR>On our way to Plan B and possible divorce

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18 years together<BR>10 years married on May 11,2001<BR>d-day May 2, 2001

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Together 18 years, married 15 (D-Day was 4 days before 15th anniversary, that was a "special" anniversary! I wouldn't even open the cards from relatives, it just hurt TOO much.)

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Together 14.5 years<BR>Married 14 years<P>D-day was June '01, 1 week before 14th anniversary. Affair lasted six months.

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We dated in High School....Dated for 6 years on and married for 32 years for a total of 38 years WOW....never saw that in writing.<P>d-day 4/21/01<P>WS moved out 9/8/01

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Together 17 years.<BR>16th Anniversary December<BR>D-Day #1.....Feb 2001<BR>D-Day #2.....Mar 2001<BR>D-Day #3........just waiting for it. [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img]

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Together 26 yrs. Married 18 yrs. 3 Kids.

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Married 21 years november, together 27 years next may.<BR>Liz

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Together 17 years, married 14, d-day was June 25, 2001

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Okay!<P>Poll results so far9taken from D/D, GQII, EN and In Recovery boards:<P>Of 58 respondants:<P>17 yrs: 9<BR>18 yrs: 7<BR>14 yrs: 5<BR>11 yrs: 5<BR>16 yrs: 4<BR>23,24 yrs: 3<BR>All other yrs: 2 or 1<P>What happens in those teen years of a relationship???<P>Anyone else?

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Married 21 years. Together 25 years. 4 kids.<BR>Dday April 1, 2001<BR>WS moved out end of April.<BR>Filed for divorce in July, 2001

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Together 11 years<BR>Married 10 years<P>10 year old <BR>17 year old - from my first marriage<P>D-day July 9, 2001<P>H is at home and I think he is trying. Says no contact with OW.

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So long I can't even remember. I met her when I was in the 8th grade. Actually the summer before 8th grade. That would have made me about 13 years old. But we did not start dating until I was mid 17. We married when I was 19, and I am 38 now. <P> So that would make it, together for 21 years, Married for 19 years.<P> jd

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