I am new to this site, so bear with me please. My H had an EA that ended after 6 months but states that he has been unhappy for 3 years and that he doesn't love me anymore because of lack of "respect". I'm confused. I have raised kids, kept house, paid bills, worked full time and finished college in the last 10 years of marriage while he was away from home most of the time on a job. Help.

It's a common tune...<P>Dr. James Dobson would say that most affairs have to do with ego needs...<P>Your H's and my H's reasonings seem similar...<P>According to my H, I didn't 'listen' to him. I didn't respect and admire him. He didn't think I loved him, but rather what he represented.<P>I am a strong, independent woman and I 'stopped' fawning over him. I also appeared not to 'need' him. I made more money. I accomplished.<P>He lost focus...Has been unsure of his life's path...and was supremely vulnerable to another woman in the same spot he was...oh, and did I mention he turned 40 and has been rapidly going gray? Losing his youth has really been bothering him.<P>Well, this got long, but I think that's what your H is talking about. Get His Needs/Her Needs and other Harley books and they will help you negotiate these stormy waters so that you can meet your H's emotional needs again.<P>Cali

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