Hello everyone I've missed you all sooo much!! Just a quick update. things seem to be slowly getting a little better with H and I. He agreed to do the EN's questionaire. That's a start. yesterday he told me he wants to love me again. Not sure how to take that. We spent most of the weekend together. he did not sleep here but we were together the majority of the weekend. He was suppose to give me his questionaire today but said he didn't finish it i told him that he promised to give it to me by the end of the weekend. He said he'll give it to me tomorrow we'll see. We also had a discussion about counseling on Wed. Iwas very emotional and he said that maybe he did need to speak to smeone and he would let me know Fri. about counseling Fri. he told me that he was thinking about it and he saw that as progress because before he was definitely not going to a counselor again. Tonight I told him that thinking about it wasn'tan answer and I felt as though he was just trying to buy more time and I refuse to live like this any longer he needs to make some serious decisions about what he wants b/c I have been through hell and back over the past 6mos. and I will not continue to live like this. I also told him that I love him and want to try to save our marriage and if he has no intentions on trying to work things out than he needs to tell me now and stop this.I also said that he needs to learn to compromise there is no you're right or I'm right. My youngest D's b-day is next weekend and I don't want to ruin it for her but after that if H can't give me some definite answers than I'm going to make some decisions that he may not like but I've had enough of waiting for him and living in this limbo state. My kids have been saying things to him like your not the same daddy anymore and I have not been encouraging this in any way but I do feel that they have every right to express to him how they feel. He has made comments to me about how this makes him feel bad. I am still willing to try to save our M but my patience have run out. <BR>C

cybil--<P>Sorry you are feeling bad today! The unpredictability we experience as a BS keeps us in constant turmoil, huh? I think your H is showing something----. I know you want a true committment (so do I), but don't you want one that is made freely, and without apprehension? <P>I know the answer to that!! Don't listen to your family. Listen to yourself---you know! <BR>You know when you have had enough, and you won't have any doubts!<P>It sounds like your H is giving a little. Is he? I am by no means saying that you have to settle, but decide what you want, and can live with---you know the boundaries thing? <P>Ultimatums, rarely work----and if they do work, then the reason it worked wasn't what you wanted in the first place---make sense? Probably not! What I am saying is that you want your H home whole heartedly---nothing less----I understand and am praying with you!<P>Hugs to you,<BR>Krystal<P>Sorry the kids are having a tough time! Give them a BIG hug for me, and tell them that someone cares!! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]