I'm almost through day 3 of Plan B. For those who don't know I went to Plan B on Friday night as a result of my WS's refusal to end contact with the OM. I finally decided that each contact with the OM was too devastating to me and that each one was chipping away at my ability to love her. I realized that the love that I had for her is no longer limitless. I needed to preserve my sanity, self-respect, and the love and committment that I had left. Each day, so far, has been it's own unique struggle. However, I have taken the advice of a number of my friends here and I have decided to allow my friends to "help". I have accepted invitations to parties, dinners, etc. by myself. Obviously, it's very uncomfortable answering the "where is the wife" questions all of the time but once I get past those I have really managed to enjoy myself. I now face each day by saying to myself that I have done and said everything during Plan A that needed to be said. No LB's to be found. It's out of my hands now and in the hands of my WS and God. Gang, pray for strength for me to get through each day and guidance for my W to see her way out of the fog.

My friend I started Plan B 5 days ago and I know what you are going through. I have to come home from work to a place that is not "HOME" I will pray for your strength and I will pray that someday soon your W will come out of the fog and see the light....<P>Best of wishes and regards!<P>RN