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#953910 10/25/01 06:34 PM
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I'd like some input on what people thought were some good books. I know some people have talked about them some in posts but it would be easy if we had them all listed together.<p>I have Surving An Affair, After the Affair, and Your Husband, Your Friend. What else is good and has been of help to you??

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I just finished reading "When a Mate Wants Out" by Conway & Conway (Zondervan Publishing House, 1992, 206pp). Good, prayerful perspective on rebuilding the marriage. <p>They support many of the same principles found on this site: Work on YOU, Plan A (though they don't call it that), meeting WS emotional needs, etc...<p>I highly recommend this book to BS who are trying to PLAN A....and eventually to WS when they've committed to working on the marriage. I hope my own WS will eventually read it, but I'm not forcing the issue right now.<p>Very good book, hope inspiring!<p>Kev<p>[ October 25, 2001: Message edited by: kevco- ]</p>

#953912 10/25/01 07:08 PM
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I'm also reading "Soul Mates" by Thomas Moore (Harper Collins Publishers, 1994, 259pp)<p>This book is a little difficult to get through at times. There are multiple references to classical psychology and myth. But it gives good perspectives on the inner-workings of relationships ant people.<p>I'm only about 1/4 through, but at this point I would recommend it to BS.<p>Kev

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Hey KID!<p>Lana Staheli's "How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage" was really good...<p>Diane Medved's "The Case Against Divorce"<p>Conway's "Men in Midlife Crisis"<p>Harley's new book "Falling in Love, Staying in Love"<p>Stormie ??? "The Power of a Praying Wife"<p>then on a personal journey...<p>don Miguel Ruiz's "The Four Agreements" and "The Mastery of Love"<p>Bruce Wilkinson's "Secrets of the Vine"<p>Yeah...I read a LOT! I have a 'waiting' list of books to buy and read...<p>Happy reading,
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(Stormie Omartian)<p>Sex Begins in the Kitchen: Because Love is an All Day Affair by Kevin Leman<p>Myth of the Greener Grass by J.Allan Petersen<p>Help Me - I'm Married! by Joyce Meyer

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Love must be tough - Dr. James Dobson

#953916 10/26/01 04:43 AM
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Harriet Lerner - The Dance of Connection ( how to talk to someone when you're mad, betrayed,hurt,desperate)

Also, Harriet's the Dance of Intimacy, The Dance of Deception.<p> And I wanted to second Don Ruiz's " The Four Agreements". Great stuff

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The Divorce Remedy by Michele Weiner-Davis is pretty good, especially with "tactical" advice.<p>I would also second Medved's book listed above. It has provided some good motivation to stick this out.<p>- Tom

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I second the recommendations above.<p>Please add "Private Lies" by Frank Pittman. Pretty heavy reading, but packed with insight.

#953920 10/26/01 01:24 PM
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Did anyone mention "Torn Asunder" by Dave Carder? A definite must for the post-A library.<p>(BTW, take a pass on Lusterman, "Infidelity: A Survival Guide".)

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all of the above [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Stormie O'Martian "Power of a Praying Husband"
Gary Smalley "Winning your Husband (Wife) back Before its Too Late"
Josh McDowell "Seeing Yourself as God Sees You"

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The Prodigal Spouse by ???
Boundaries by Cloud & Townsend
Getting the Love you Want by Harville Hendrix,
Hiding from Love by Townsend,
Women who Love to Much by Robin Norwood...<p>All of these recommended at one time by my therapist...<p>So...JustPlainCali...what is on your reading LIST? I am the same...have 'em stacked up in line to read....<p>For the women out there...I especially enjoy the O (Oprah) Magazine....Each month has a different topic and mostly deals with taking care of yourself....

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H and I went out tonight...our plans to see a movie went awry...so we prowled through some used books stores...<p>I found an oldie, but goodie...and devoured it in just under an hour [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] ...<p>Charles Swindoll... Strike the Original Match <p>Can I just say WOW!<p>Cali

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Hi there, I agree with all recommendations mentioned above. Especially<p>THE DIVORCE REMEDY<p>I think it is quite similar to Harley's approach. [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img]

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