hey good buddy, we're missing you. What's with an update?<p>hope you're being the safe harbour....<p>- Freddy

He's hanging in there.... all about the same. His W seems to be clinging to the fence real tight. He is being the safe harbour.... although losing energy. W wants to be "friends" with OM, and "friends" with H2Y.<p>He's going to try to get to the library this afternoon and post an update. <p>I'll tell him you asked about him. He appreciates the support and prayers from this place.

Also, no job yet. He's looking, of course, but is actually sorta in a catch-22. He's playing Mr. Mom, and keeping the housework done and watching the kids (6 kids and 3 adults in the house!!). So if he gets a job, that will take away from the great Plan A domestic support he is providing. Yep, financial support is important too, so he's looking for it, and will have to learn to balance all of it and still do a good Plan A. It seems like he will stay in the house with his W for now. She enjoys having him there (mostly as a maid and baby-sitter!!!), but at least he's filling all the EN's that he can right now, and getting results. <p>His plan right now is to still continue Plan A through the end of the year.<p>OM is getting antsy that she is on the fence between them, and can't stand just being a "friend". He is LB'ing, which is VERY good for H2Y. Of course, H2Y has a few LB's as well, that he's trying to keep under control. [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Well, like I said, hopefully he'll be on this afternoon or this weekend to give an update himself. He misses MB terribly. I talk to him occasionally to help him stay on the MB track, and be his sounding board in place of MB - BEST I can anyhoo... not that I'm the MB expert... [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] .<p>[ October 26, 2001: Message edited by: Faith1 ]</p>

Hi,<p>Nothing really special to post.. except that I am trying to master the best plan A I ever have and that ever can possibly do. I love bust from time to time and some big ones too. I am fulfilling many of her needs, but not the ones that need to be fulfilled to prove to her that she can trust me that I've changed. I have a long way to go and a short time to get there. I have my up days and my very down days. I have days where I want to quit and days that I think there is going to be no more pain. Everyone here is doing really well. I take one day at a time and try to better the next and myself. I have a great support system here... well its actually abroad.. (hehe.. well) and they know who they are [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] <p>I wish that I could come here and post more often and see how all of you are doing. MB is a definate LB topic until the fence sitting quits on W behalf. I know that one way or another she and I are going to make it and the OM will be dust in the wind. My W knows what she has to do as do I to improve our relationship.<p>I really feel for her at times.. because I see a time coming where I'm going to be okay and I don't want her to regret her life. I know that once that time comes, her world will be devistated.<p>I want to thank each of you for carrying me THROUGH the summer and getting me where I am right now. I would have called this quits along time ago without all of you.<p>Advice, set goals, plan A to your hearts content, things will get better, and time heals. I haven't much time, but I wanted to say hello.<p>I love you all... be careful, I'll check back in and see who says hello [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]

Well hello there stranger!! I'm glad to hear that you're doing okay. Your message tones are that you're feeling pretty good. <p>Things are going well enough here. The kids are doing AWESOME (did I ever send you a pic of the 'angel twins'? If not.. let me know by emailing me at 4topie25@home.com and I'll forward them to you).<p>I haven't been on MB much lately. But I do try to come on everyday if I can. I wish I had more time to read and help more on here. [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Take care of yourself and your family, and it's so good to hear that you're okay.<p>Karen

Karen,
I just read your reply to H2Y. He said, thank you, and yes, he saw your angels [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] . And he also said that he had a chocolate cupcake last nite. He didn't know he was supposed to, but he did [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] . He remembered that the day was around this time, so I told him it was yesterday. He's glad things are going well for you. Hang in there. And thanks for thinking of him.

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H2Y, <p>Where do you have the most support for YOU (aside from on here... [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] ).<p>Then you have to take into account the kids. Do you really want to keep them away from their mum? What would be best for them?<p>I'm thinking that you should at least stay in Dallas until the boys are done this school year. They've had a tough ride for a long time now (haven't we all... sigh!), and the least amount of changes are probably what's best for them.<p>Sometimes putting the kids ahead of yourself is the best way to go. What do you think?<p>Karen

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bump for H2Y, how you doing good buddy? [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>- Freddy

His W asked him to move out last Saturday. He hasn't yet. SHe doesn't seem too serious about it, because it hasn't come up again. <p>He's still hanging in there... still doing Plan A. Very frustrated, but overall doing pretty good.<p>Thanks, Freddy. I'll tell him you asked about him.

Here's a new update on H2Y. (Thanks for keeping him in MB's thoughts, Freddy)<p>He has another interview today (right now as a matter of fact) for the dispatcher job. Send prayers and wishes. <p>His W accidently told him "I love you" today. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] verrrrry good. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>he's doing a very good Plan A, despite OM's efforts at messing with him. Halloween presented a battle between them for trick-or-treating with the OC, and could've led to a bad situation. H2Y kept his cool, and resumed his Plan A beautifully. OM LB'd all over the place. H2Y is being that SAFE HARBOUR. He's doing wonderfully filling needs around the house of housework and the kids, and remaining calm, positive and loving.<p>That's about it for now. He or I will send another update when possible. he appreciates everyone's thoughts and prayers.

Faith,<p>thanks for the update - tell H2Y that I think of him often and wish him well. The OM sounds like an axx hxxx so H2Y is gonna do good - I feel it0. And that she told him she loves him [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] fantastic [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] I'm so happy for him.<p>I feel my time with MB is coming to a natural end (not yet, but its coming) - and H2Y is one good buddy - tell him to take good care of himself [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>- Freddy

Love to hear those good reports!<p>Thanks Faith for keeping us "connected"<p>Tell him KUDOS from TNT!!!<p>Tell him that I say a prayer for him everytime I see the stars! Tell him I am praying for that job.<p>TnT