TNT,<p> How would you know what my hair style is? Have you been following my around????????? I also, can't believe what happened to you. You handled it alot better than I would. I agree with everyone else. Pig is not a strong enough word for her.<p>Orchid,<p> Have you been with TNT following me around??<p>Faith,<p> Yes, I read your reply to my post. I will think about it for a bit.<p>Indy

Oh, I would be maddddd too. So what do you do when you are mad? Come here and start posting again! Better than lovebusting, ya know....<p>Have you found a "pet" name for OW? bimbo? sounds too nice - how about coniving bimbo! (I can't say what I'm really thinking, ya know.)<p>So, how old of an old timer are you? Do you remember lostva? Her H OW was nick-named pop-tart. She was a real doozy - were you here back then? <p>How old are your kids? all under 10? I know you have no time for yourself much, demanded upon a lot, huh? Are you mostly lonely and feeling betrayed tonight? <p>sending you a hug tooooo!

Oh, I would be maddddd too. So what do you do when you are mad? Come here and start posting again! Better than lovebusting, ya know....<p>Have you found a "pet" name for OW? bimbo? sounds too nice - how about coniving bimbo! (I can't say what I'm really thinking, ya know.)<p>So, how old of an old timer are you? Do you remember lostva? Her H OW was nick-named pop-tart. She was a real doozy - were you here back then? <p>How old are your kids? all under 10? I know you have no time for yourself much, demanded upon a lot, huh? Are you mostly lonely and feeling betrayed tonight? <p>sending you a hug tooooo!

Indy,
I'm glad you seem to be feeling better.<p>btw... I'm in central time too... couldn't tell if you thought i was or wasn't. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] I jsut wasn't sure about you. so we're both on central.<p>are you originally from indy or NC? or neither? hehe

Yes, TNT, I was here for lostva and PT (loved the added bacon..what a treat). I've been around since spring 2000... Kids are 10, 8 and 6. 6 year old won't talk to H... and of course that is my fault NOT! Actually Anna2000 has a great name for bimbo... something like trailor park trash slut b*tch... tptsb? Is that anna? I can never remember exactly, but believe me it fits.

Me - central time too.... moved to rural northern MN in Aug 96 from nice warm so CA.... we live in a town of 152 - that includes OW. She lived accross the street from us until about 3 years ago, and now lives around the corner with her new husband. He married a real winner, I'll tell ya. <p>Indy - so has recruiting been easier since the WTC attacks or harder? I saw on the news that young guys were signing up on their own. Did you ever do any duty over seas? 7 years is a long time. <p>My son has been out for 3.75 yrs and he still has that marine hair cut - but he sometimes let's the top grow just a little bit and then bleaches it blonde - just for fun. He's losing his hair now, so - I told him to do whatever he wants with his hair - as long as he has hair.<p>Faith1 - so you live not too far from H 2u? I am sooo glad that you check up on him. OM used to post here years ago and he caused all kinds of problems. It is probably better that H 2 u has contact with you right now, keeps OM from coming to the board.

Faith,<p> I am from Indy. I was raised about 2 miles from the Indianapolis Motor Speedway. Do I feel better. I don't know. I think that I am in my public mode right now. <p> As far has your reply. Yes, I want to make her happy. Her happiness is very important to me. Do I think that she is happy now. I don't know. Did you read the letter that I gave her on Thursday?<p>Indy

hah haha hahah My H ow lives in trailer - oh my gosh, eyes wide open you finally got me to chuckle - that is what i need right now. <p>I was a single mom when my older kids were 10, 8 and 6 too. That was over a decade ago - it is hard. But I remember the memories that we made - they do too, they ended being the best times of our lives, when it was just the 3 kids and me. They were awesome kids, but really had a hard time. The OW in that marriage was horrid! Oh well, that is another story for another time. <p>So, basically, I think your husband wants you to give him 'weekends' off from responsibility - but doesn't want to lose his 'rights'. You say that he is still around during the week - how do you move between the week and the weekend and adjust all of the time? Is that hard?

tnt,
no, I'm not near h2y. we talk on the phone every now and then, since he's away from a computer right now, and I listen to him vent (since he can't come here) and help him think through the MB stuff. I knew about the OM problems on here, so i hesitated to even post those updates. I may go and delete them in a little bit.<p>ewe, I'm glad you joined us tonite. you feeling a little better now? [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

tnt,<p> Recruiting efforts were alittle easier in Sept. Our interview numbers went up about 65% overnight. There were also alot of walk ins into our offices. It is starting to settle down now. I have never been overseas. My W found out about our youngest when I was suppose to go. I missed my son's birth. I was not going to miss that one. I am ready to go overseas and fight if I have to. That is what I signed up for. The only thing that bothers me is what is that going to do to the kids.<p>Indy

Indy
How long has it been since your wife started her affair? Where is that letter that you wrote her? When did you find out about affair?

Indy
that will be hard on the kids when you are gone. I really feel for you, and really wish you wouldn't have to go. Is there anyway they would leave you in recruiting vs. sending you overseas? seems like that would be a real need right now.
TnT

Indy,
well, public mode is ok sometimes. sometimes its what we need to break out of our depression. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>yep. I read the letter. I ought to go read it again to refresh my memory. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] I think it was a good letter, I know that. I think you should stick to it, and avoid contact if you can.

tnt,<p> The letter is on my thread to SNL and Z. I can't remember what page though. If you read that post it will give you a general idea.<p>Indy

tnt,<p> That is the thing about being a Marine. When the country needs help they call their 911 force. That is us. Would they leave me on recruiting duty? That may happen. When we have things like this happen they put everyone in stop-freeze mode. That means that you stay put and you can't get out of the military until the emergency is over.<p>Indy

Indy,
what other kind of options do you have with your kids? DO you not want to keep them and keep your present job? is the main challenge for you right now having to communicate with your W? I know some people find it necessary to get away completely to avoid all contact. I just think you would be a better parent than your W and OM.

Well folks.. I'm outta here for the night (not that I gave much input anyways...hehehe).<p>Enjoy talking things out. I'll catch you all on another night, I'm sure. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Sweet dreams!! And for those of you who need to, don't forget to change your clocks before you turn out the lights to go to sleep! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Karen

Faith,<p> We came on recruiting duty so I could get out of the Marines get a house and raise our children. I found out about the A in Jan. My end of contract date was the 24th of Oct. Do I want my kids. Yes and no. Yes because they are my children and I love them. No, because I have to see my WS. Everytime I see her I want to hold her. <p>Indy

so, tell me what that mean... end of contract. I don't know anything about he military.. [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] . hehe<p>that was 4 days ago. did you renew your contract? or are you and they still trying to decide if you need to move?<p>do you want to go into combat? or just want to do something different?

Faith,<p> That was the end of my enlistment. I am currently on an extension pending reelistment. Do I want to go into combat. Yes, it would make somethings better. I also make it so that I wouldn't have to live without my wife and family. I took all of my energy from her and the kids. She is the world to me. I still see her as she looked the day that we married and how happy that she was.<p>Indy