Hi, everyone. I need to vent and get some comments, please.I posted my first Question about whether an EA was really infidelity. Well, I sent a copy to WS. And, he came on Saturday to spend alone time with me. Well, we had a great time, as usual but this morning (don't ask), when we started talking about working on the PJA he informed me that there was no way that he would stop his cell phone conversation with OW. Besides the fact inuslting fact that I am also having to pay the charges as they are on our joint charge card, I feel that he has chosen an EA over our family. I think that this is stopping him from even trying to work things out and/or move on.
I hope I did the right thing. I went to Plan B. How is it possible to work further on Plan A when WS refuses to sever contact? I have listened to him deny for 2 months that there is even such a thing as an EA. He figures that the PA is the only thing that can hurt. Yeah, right! Talk about FOG! I have shared all the information I have gotten of this site and he still doesn't get it. I am hoping that Plan B will make things more real. I found that Plan A was facilitating his EA relationship with OW. Giving him a sense of power because I was waiting patiently for him. And, he has the OW to fall back on all the time. She thinks he is perfect. Hey, they only knew each other 3 weeks before they went to their separate bases.
And, with the mixed signals I was going bananas! "I want to come back", 5 minutes later he is "uncomfortable". Sheesh! It feels like I am dealing with a kid who can't make up his mind. But because he got caught with his hand in the cookie jar it is my fault for finding out! HUH!! [img]images/icons/confused.gif" border="0[/img]

Marli,
Plan A is not for everyone ... I am in it right now. I am also strugling w/ the same ??? on plan B even plan C ... WW has PA even she denies it, and she is not back since Friday night. Back to your Q: does EA is infidelity ?. To me yes it is, if you M someone you better be EA/PA to SO. Up and down, this is a roller coaster ride of your life in plan A. Yes, plan A make you feel like doormat, not fair and enabling the A. That is not the intention of plan A. It adresses the isues that WS has with you, not you with WS !!!. In plan A you are not suppose to intefere or demand anything from WS. In your case, how hard is it competing w/ phone A ?. Learn his issues (EN) and try to compete with it. Admiration or conversation ?. Once you master it hope WS stop the A voluntary ... let it dies naturally.<p>The fact that H has EA and refuses to stop, H already choose EA over you and family. Work on learning OW's trick (EN that she meets your H).