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#954627 10/29/01 10:38 AM
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ok h admitted why he can came back home.he said he never wanted to be w me and he just came back to prove to his family we wouldn't work out and he didn't want them to think ow was the cause of us not being together. so that by moving out of her house he was showing them we just couldn't be.but how do you do that to me and our child who believed her father was here to stay.that was his plan but at the same time he was still sleeping with me but saying lets just try to be friends.friends don't sleep in the same bad at night and aren't intimate.i had conversation w ow with whom he first told he was coming back to be with our daughter and yesterday told her the same story he told me.me and ow discussed everything he was telling her and everything he was telling me she even said he has been trying to get her pregnant lately.he barely takes care of our child why is he trying to bring another into the world?
she even told me when the first meet he was dating and he had no idea he was married and when she found out he told her he was separated and didn't want to tell her till his divorce when through(lie no divorce was in works)now he is moving back in w ow but yet he has to come get the 14 bags i packed up last night he has no where else to go so he is going back to her place (who cares)how do you bring back your entire wardrobe knowing you have a plan behind it and only be here for a while?and how do you move back in and have you child thing one thing and its not the case?he has been cheating all along and i know this is whats best for me and i felt real good yesterday but how come today i feel down?
where can i get anti-depressants as i think it will make the process easier he told both of us so many different stories and it's just not right
i know every dog has there day but why am i feeling down?

#954628 10/29/01 10:52 AM
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(((((( left alone )))))) just wanted to reply before I left for work and at least give you a hug. <p>I don't really know what to say, perhaps H was trying to not be 'the bad-guy' and felt that moving back in would make him look and feel better. He did not realize how much false hope and hurt this would cause. OR...perhaps he was really hoping things would work out and had to see for himself. <p>It does look like he has proven something to himself and has made some decision.... unfortunately its not the decision you wanted.<p>I wish you the best...hang in there and I'd go see a therapist or a doctor if you feel you need to. Also, maybe if you start doing things for yourself (reading self-help books, working out) or something that YOU really enjoy...it would pull you out of depression somewhat.<p>...keep moving forward with yourself....

#954629 10/29/01 12:33 PM
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Dear LA, <p>I only have a few minutes but you definitely need a hug and some good support. If 1/2 of what your H says is true, he is not ready to come home. At least not the right way. <p>Read up on plan A and B. Whether he has a place to stay or not is not your problem. How he treats you and your child is your concern. Saving face with relatives is not your main concern. Your welfare is. <p>I will check back later. <p>L.


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