I need some help on weather implementing Plan A after Plan B has been in effect for the past three months.<p>I had discovered my WS was having an A in the middle of June. After trying desperatley to save the relationship it was apparent that she was only being pushed farther away. She moved out the beginning of August and is still seeing the OM. We both began counselling with the same therapist on an individual basis as she did not want to work on us but work on ourselves as individuals. We have not had any contact since she moved out three months ago. It has given me time to work on myself and also focus on the time and energy that I had needed to be putting into my relationship that I was not giving it. I was running my own business that kept me busy in a resort for the summer to build some financial freedom for our future (But at what cost?) I would be home once a week and then home for five months during the winter. She would come to see me when see could, but not ever having a drivers licence made it trying. The lonliness and unmet EN made her stray, which I now understand.<p>The last time I spoke to her, I told her that I would not turn my back to her and that I would be here for us to talk when she felt comfortable to do so. I have known her tendancies for a long time and that is that she is never the one to make the first call, weather it's been with past frienships or relationships. I now have a strong feeling to make some contact with her (by letter to start)of my renewed commitment to our relationship and the changes I am aware of and doing something about. Plan Aing. To let her know that I am still here and am willing to work things out - to let her know that I still feel this way in case she is afraid that maybe my feelings have changed since I have not made contact for the last three months. <p>Being that I was not aware of Plan A or Plan B - will Plan A work after Plan B had already been implemented??

Bump...for more replies.<p>Dear Hoping: I haven't been in your "shoes", so I can't say for certain that this will work or not, BUT I do believe you SHOULD definitely make it clear to your wife that you are OPEN to working on the marriage.<p>Peace, ~Marie

I also feel now you should let her know you are still there for her.<p>I would start with letters and phone calls. I feel she will come to her senses in time