Happy Halloween 0:<p>H has decided to work on our marriage. But unfortunately it's all on His terms.<p>Still finding out about the Long Term A.<p>Don't know if I'll ever believe him.<p>Have been Plan Aing for 2 weeks now. H has been so happy with the "new" me. I am fulfilling all his EN & PN's. Me, well I'm learning that I have to put my needs aside until H has got his act together & is clearly out of the "mist".<p>Last night he went ballastic on our D bevause she didn't finish her homework. He swore & caused & scene & then shut me out for the rest of the night.<p>Sorry, but I LB'd...how dare he. He gets pissed so he takes it out on me & the kids. I told him to take a good look at his behavior & see that it has always been like this.<p>When will it stop? I showed him this sight...all he cared about was what the "strangers" had to say about him.<p>Have a safe night everyone.<p>Lisa

Louser...I did the same thing...about showing H website...he too has aversion to site because I have 'denegrated' him here...<p>(He saw a couple of isolated posts where I was negative.)<p>I know how hard it is to not LB...but if you could just take a breath...count to 10...think of a nonLB way to say what needs to be said...<p>My H has also been very tough on our boys since discovery and actually pre-discovery of the A...LOTS OF ANGER...I have had to learn to bite my tongue and plan out what it is that needs to be said...and as time has gone on he has gentled a bit...(we also took a 12-week parenting class that I think helped A LOT!).<p>The emotional toll we are taking is tough...and I don't know how much longer I am going to be able to do this...but I struggle on...each day is a new day...<p>take care,<p>Cali