Just wondering if anyone has ever sent a letter to their WS after they have been in Plan A for a certain period of time.<p>I am a person who has always had a problem with using the right words when it comes to expressing my feelings. I thought that maybe by sending a letter to my wife, a love letter if you wish, that I could reinforce my position at this point.<p>Anyone?

I'm the queen of letters. Just ask all my buddies on the D/D forum who think I should stop writing and start standing up for myself. I have posted several of my letters, if you search on my name. I don't know how helpful they will be but I love to get ideas from reading others written thoughts. <p>While in Plan A, love letters should be ok as long as you know it would not be a lovebuster for your spouse and that you don't expect anything in return for your heart and soul poured out on paper.<p>I later found out that the more I tried to teach my H, the more he resisted but he often tells me he re-reads my letters when he needs encouragment. They were not LB's to him as long as I didn't place demands, or do the guilt trip thing. <p>Honesty is a great thing. I know I would love to have a letter from my H professing his love for me. Written word is very powerful because your thoughts can flow without interruption or distraction. Be careful though because anything you write is a permenant record. <p>Good luck on your Plan A. Happy Halloween.<p>PP

I did a Plan A letter...it was a love letter, remembering all of our good times, happy moments, etc.<p>He replied "Yes, we certainly had some good times, but as I told you, I can't do this any more."<p>So be prepared. It may not get the response you want.