Well d@mn it!!! Now I'm just plain mad! Anyone who has read my receint post knows that me and XW(WS) were going to New Orleans this weekend as a get away and some fun. My mother was going to watch the kids for me so I could go. I didn't tell her it was with XW. I didn't lie, just didn't tell her, she didn't ask. <p>Well mom called and asked if XW was going. I told her yes and she said no way was she watching the kids now. Because of XW.<p>She never sees the kids, even though she claims to love them. She blames my XW for her not seeing them in the past. And now that she has a chance to spend a good amount of time with them, she's not going to do it.<p>Then my sister called and said she spoke to mom. She proceded to tell me she hopes we don't work it out. She hopes XW sleeps with a million other guys. Says C will not help and that I'm stupid... and on and on.<p>Why are they being so mean to me? Why can't they just accept the fact that I'm going to try this no matter what they say? I don't expect them to understand or forgive XW. But for them to purposely hurt our chances is wrong. Don't they see IF me and XW work this out they are blowing their chances of seeing our children. I don't want to be around my family at all now. And if I'm not around, my kids won't be either. I'm not holding my kids over their heads, but it's a fact, if they are mean to me, I won't have anything to do with them.<p>And I totally hate this. My family just doesn't want me to get hurt again. I understand that, but it doesn't matter. I want my wife back, I want my family(that I created) back, I want my life back.

up... any advice on how to handle this?

kb-
I can understand your frustration with your mom and sister, but keep in mind that they are probably frustrated too. When people close to us keep hurting themselves it is hard to stand by and help them do it. I am not saying that your attempts to reconcile with your WS are a bad thing or that you shouldn't do it, but your family has seen how much she has hurt you. <p>Maybe this trip to New Orleans is a bad idea and these roadblocks are a message to you. You said on another thread that cash was tight and next week would be hot dogs for you and the kids if you blow it out this weekend. Sometimes things happen outside of our control for a reason. <p>If you and your XW are on the path to recovery, you can have a wonderful weekend here at home with your kids. Think about it.<p>Just my .02
M

kb,
I wish your family understood that despite their fears about you getting hurt again, it is YOUR life to live as you see fit. I'm sorry that they are adding extra burden to your load. That said, I don't think New Orleans would have been a great idea anyway, in light of the newest developments with your XW. I'm thinking if she went and you 2 had a great time, you might start to think that's all she wants from you...the good time. I agree with the others who've said maybe your mom cancelling on the babysitting was done because you shouldn't be doing this right now. Again, I am sorry that your family isn't behind you on this. My own kids thought I was NUTS to have my H come back home again, but I had to tell them that while I understood that they didn't want me hurting again, it was my decision. Much hugs to you for the weekend, whatever it brings you!<p>MOM

Thanks Wiffle and MOM, maybe you're right, maybe this happened for a reason.<p>Yeah money's tight, but isn't it always? Thing that sucks, XW may still be going to the game with someone else. With my luck OM.<p>I even suggested we all go Sunday morning. Us and the kids go to the zoo or something. She said she really had her heart set on the game. Funny, she HATES football.<p>Oh but I was kidding about the hot dogs. We'll at least have frozen pizzas [img]images/icons/tongue.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Doing what I can to stay positive...<p>Thanks again